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Once bitten, twice shy

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 18/06/2009

In English we have a saying or idiom, once bitten twice shy, which means that if someone is hurt or something has gone wrong, the next time the same or similar thing occurs we would be more careful.

Malcolm Gladwell, a writer of four good books, Blink, The Tipping Point, What the Dog Saw, and Outliners, refers to the subconscious, the automatic running of once bitten, twice shy, referring to a fire chief, who had sent his crew into a major fire which appeared to be in a room on a certain floor level. The fire chief then ordered his men to quickly leave the building, to stop fighting the fire. Shortly after exiting the building, the floor where the fire crew had been standing collapsed. The seat of the fire had been on the floor below.

How did the fire chief know to order his men to evacuate?

It was because of all the accumulated learnings, knowledge, of fighting other fires, the little signs, which at a conscious level were not noticeable, told his subconscious or intuition, that disaster was about to happen.

Another great person I ave had the great privilege to learn from is Dr Win Wenger and Project Renaissance.

In his work Win wenger teaches us to be aware of our Side Bands. To become aware of our own internal feelings, thoughts, ideas, by noticing the little signals that we give off, maybe a quick glance, a quick intake of breath, an indication of a hand movement, to stop and ask,

“what happened there, what did we notice, why did we do what we did?“

It is becoming aware of these signals, that we will become more aware of our own intuition, and we will see more, feel more, hear more, as we do with Phillip’s Sausage.

It was wonderful to get feedback from the participants of the Society of NLP Master Practitioner course I am running here in Bahrain. After returning from doing the Side Band exercise, they had had different experiences, each noticing more, bird songs, items in the hotel entrance that they had used many many times.

Notice your side bands, it could help in controlling your state, being aware of others states. Use your side bands in meetings, negotiations, work and especially relationships. I must use them myself more often. (see previous entry.)

But I still love my work.

Other English sayings.

Thoughts

It is the second time it has happened. Carpe Diem.

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 18/06/2009

This is the second time this has happened to me, and it has meant I have had to look at life in a different way.

Whilst I was unhappy when this happened to me, I was inoculated as against the anger, rage, sadness of loosing such an old trusted friend, and I knew that if I stayed calm, the hands of my clock would still turn round, a solution would be found, and friends, people I know, would no doubt offer advice and perhaps support in my hour of need, or perhaps not.

There would be light at the end of the tunnel, if I waited, got on with life, and enjoyed the present day. Carpe Diem.

Whilst at college at the Staffordshire College of Commerce in the West Midlands of the UK many years ago, I came across the Latin saying, Carpe Diem, which means seize the day, or as I interpret it enjoy the present day, and whenever I can I try and remember to do that.

I spent over 35 years in the computer industry, being the computer expert, supporting customers who had purchased computers, designing the systems, writing the programs, installing the software, training the staff, for I worked for computer manufacturers, NCR, Sperry Univac, Texas Instruments. I was the expert, I have loads of knowledge and experience.

When my trusted computer broke down, a computer that had lasted me only 18 months, 18 months ago I was really upset. I found a solution around the problem keyboard by using a removable one, but that could only be temporary, so I purchased a replacement computer.

That has lasted 18 months and now that too has developed a fault on the keyboard, so although I have found a temporary solution, I had learned from my past experience and replaced it with another.

Having now needing to wear glasses for reading, when I replace my glasses I purchase two pairs at the same time. If anything happens, I have a backup. I could loose them, scratch them.

Two years ago, one of my pairs of glasses, broke, but I had the second pair, I was safe. But within weeks the second pair broke as well, in the same place, so I had to buy another two pair of glasses.

Two weeks ago, on of these replacement glasses the arm fell off. No problem, I have a second pair. Yesterday, the second pair of glasses had the same thing happen, the arm fell off.

Something told me this may happen before I left for the trip I am on now here in Bahrain, but I dismissed it.

Thankfully, on our way to find a sandwich last night, my host Philip Edwards took me to an optician to see if the glasses could be repaired, but no. We had a solution, off the shelf reading glasses, I can still see to read.

Carpe Diem.

Life is full of such incidents.

NLP Travels

Even more on the Special Half Hour Club of BBC Radio 5 Live

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 16/06/2009

Further to my previous entries of wearing the badge of the Special Half Hour (SHH), for the Richard Bacon program on BBC Radio 5 Live, I wore it with pride in Bahrain at an NLP Master Practitioner course I was giving.

Of course, I left the participants eager to know what was the Special Half Hour, but as in other countries, they will have to tune in to the internet to listen.

Bridadier Abdulla Saif Al.Naimi and Amira A. Rehami with Phillip Holt — **Brigadier Abdulla Saif Al.Naimi and Amira A. Rehami with Phillip Holt wearing the SHH badge.** **Two participants from the Society of NLP Master Practitioner course, Bahrain, June 2009**

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A pair of eyes woke me at 4:14 am

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 14/06/2009

It is now 7:41 am in the morning in Bahrain, 5:14 am in the UK, I just don’t want to know what time it is in other parts of the world, as I will start the NLP Master Practitioner course here at 9:00 am.

The flight from London yesterday was much the same as any other flight, but more on British Airways BA0125 later.

I will be staring in the home of Leila and Philip Edwards of the Make Over Experience, who are promoting my Society of NLP, PhotoReading and Mind Mapping courses and other courses in Bahrain.

My life style and travels mean that I have slept alone for many months, and I am used to having a bed, in which I sleep no more than ten consecutive nights, all to my self.

At 4:14 am in the morning, I became conscious and my eyes opened, and met with a wide pair of eyes staring back at me.

I did not panic, because they had love written into them, they had the look of friendship, longing, companionship in them.

I just said hello, and the owner of the eyes jumped onto the bed and snuggled up to me, and after a little cuddle and small talk, it was not long until we were both in a deep sleep.

Ah, heaven.

The Eyes

NLP Travels

Ironing done, suitcase packed, Bahrain next

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 12/06/2009

It seems like a small break since being in Gaziantep, and a lot has happened, meetings, meals, work, lots of washing and ironing of shirts.

I am sure someone is wearing my shirts, and letting me wash and iron them. I can not be going through so many.

My suitcase is packed, ready for my next trip to Bahrain with The Make Over Experience.

It will be another early start to get to Heathrow, a six hour flight to arrive in Bahrain Saturday evening.

We will start the Society Of NLP’s Master Practitioner on Sunday morning, and I look forward to meeting many from the previous NLP Practitioner course. Perhaps I may meet some of other participants we have had on other courses.

Do I get a taxi, or leave even earlier to catch a bus and drag my suitcase all over Heathrow?

Oh well, bed calls, I will decide whilst cleaning my teeth.

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Neuro-Linguistic Programming for Human Resource Professionals

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 12/06/2009

One of my up and coming training sessions will be held in Kuala Lumpur in Malaysia on 22nd July 2009 for the company LexisNexis with the title of Neuro-Linguistic Programming for Human Resource Professionals.

The workshop will be held at the Crowne Plaza Multiara Hotel, Kuala Lumpa, from 9.00am till 5:30pm, on Wednesday 22nd July 2009.

The workshop will contain :-

Introducing Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP)
Managing Behaviour in your Organisation with NLP
Using NLP Techniques to Enhance the Skills Required in HR Practice
Enhancing Negotiation Techniques with NLP
NLP as a Coaching Tool for HR Professionals
Utilising NLP in Interviews to Reduce Staff Turnover

More details can be seen from clicking on the icon below, by visiting my NLP web site www.nlpnow.net , by visiting the LexisNexis web site or by telephoning (006) 0378823559.

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It will be good to meet old and new faces in Malaysia, at this workshop. My only problem is that I will be finishing an NLP Master Practitioner course with NLPItaly in Rimini, Italy on Sunday 19th July, flying back to the UK on the 20th, catching the night flight on the same evening to arrive on the 21st July. But then this is my lifestyle, and something I often do and enjoy.

PhotoReading Recommendation Türkçe

PhotoReading, Feedback from Gaziantep. Fotografik Okuma

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 11/06/2009

From my last course on PhotoReading (Fotografik Okuma) in Gaziantep in Southern Turkey, (click to see pictures), a participant Şule Can, came in with five books I ask all attending to do, each of about 300 pages, One of these books she had read, and the other four were on a subject she did not know but wanted to know about, or the four books should be on a related subject.

Şule came with four books on the history of the Ottoman Empire.

Şule Can PhotoReading
PhotoReading is the ability to absorb 20,000 – 30,000 WPM (Words Per Minute), that is about a page a second, and involves a process which is taught over a two and a half day course. It is a course I have taught all over the world, China, Sri Lanka, India, Bahrain, Saudi Arabia, Turkey, Italy and the UK, so many people know how the process works.

PhotoReading is not reading word for word, although certainly we do do that, but only when required to gain specific information, and as I said, to absorb information into the inner or subconscious mind and not the conscious mind.

That last sentence means that after the page turning, turning the pages over at a page a second, we would probably not know what we have read, what is that content of the book or article. Even after over ten years of PhotoReading, I still have this experience, it is only after we start to activate the information, that is to start to gain access to that inner, subconscious mind, that we know we know.

Şule trusted what I said, and as we activated, gained access, the information from the four books on the last day, although she was talking in Turkish, I knew she was speaking with authority as observed all the participants.

Since then Şule has sent this feedback to Mehpare Kileci of GAP Danışmanlık who organises the courses in Gaziantep and Southern Turkey.

Quote:- English

“Yesterday I was chatting with my colleagues at work. We were talking about arguments and fights between siblings. All of a sudden, I started to link the reason of this matter to our ancestries, same same things had happened during the Ottoman Empire etc… It was -as Phillip said- a “bllluuugh!!!” effect. Me and talking expertly about history!!!??? When I realised that, my husband was looking at me, smiling. Thank you very much you two!”

Quote :- Türkçe

“Günaydınlar(.))

Bugün sabah kahvemizi içerken şantiyede çok güzel bir olay yaşadım. Bu geri bildirimi size hemen vermek istedim. Konumuz kardeş kavgalarıydı. Ne alaka diyeceksiniz fakat ben genlerimizden girdim ve bir Osmanlı Tarihi profesörü gibi(.)??) aynı Phillip in dediği gibi (böğgg) yaparcasına tarihten örnekler vermeye başladım… Hayatta bilmediğim konularda konuşmayan ben, kısa bir tarih özeti yaptım sabah sabah….
Baktım eşim Hasan da hayran hayran bana bakıp kafasıyla onaylıyor ve bana göz kırptığında ne yaptığımın farkına vardım. Ben ve tarih sohbeti; harikaymış!

Size ve Phillip’e tekrar teşekkür ediyorum.”

Unquote.

Oh I love my work.

If you would like to organise a course in your country, please contact me by email [email protected] or telephone +448451306213 or Skype or Gizmo me by clicking on the button on the left.

* “bllluuugh!!!“ :- To talk without thinking with authority, words just pour out of our mouths, it is as if we already knew the subject.

Memory NLP Travels

Jasmine or Honeysuckle

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 10/06/2009

Whilst working in Gaziantep, Southern Turkey, I am very lucky to be allowed to stay in the home of Mehpare Kileci of GAP Danışmanlık, and from my lounge diner, I have wonderful views over the local countryside, with a business park, fields of plantations, mountains in the distance and valleys with sparse vegetation.
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View from Phillip Holts rooms in Gaziantep, Turkey

View from Mahpare’s home in Gaziantep, Turkey
In the morning, I would stand in the garden waiting to go to the Mind Mapping and PhotoReading courses held at the Gaziantep Tennis Club, enjoying the early sun already reaching temperatures requiring me to remove my suit jacket, taking in the sights and sounds of a lone car straining to climb the little used road from the town in the valley below the house, and the smells, the fragrances, the perfumes of the plants and flowers.

In the evening, after completing another day of training, sometimes being greeted by the family dog Zeus, we would climb the steep stairs leading from the garage to the entrance to the house, again the smells of the garden met the nose.

Mehpare, pointed-out one plant that she and her husband Necdet loved, but did not know the English name.

Silly me did not have a good look at the plant or flower, but my mind took me back to memories of previous experiences, (NLP, Transderivational Search), and to a particular night in Antalya, again in Southern Turkey, a popular holiday resort, and where I gave an NLP Practitioner course.

I walked around the harbour one evening with my translator Asu, and there I was confronted my many Jasmine plants, with a wonderful and powerful perfume coming from the blooms.

Taking some of the bloom, I laid them on my pillow, and I still remember the perfume as I drifted off to sleep.

I could not though as I stood next to Mehpare the name of that plant.

I tried everything I could to remember the name of the plant, me a person that will train others to gain better memory skills, but nothing. The more I tried the more frustrated I became, and that is why I became consumed in searching for the name as I stood there, instead of taking a closer look at the blooms of Mehpare’s plant.

It was whilst dragging my suitcase back to my home in the UK, Norbiton Hall, on my return trip from Gaziantep, thinking what I could eat for my evening meal that the name of plant came to me.

As I teach, it is when the mind is relaxed, distracted, that it really gets to work. At a subconscious level, unknown at a conscious level i.e. we are not aware, it is still working on problems, searching for answers.

Jasmine.

Jasmine flowers

When I contacted Mehpare, she had already done her searching and took a photograph of her plants blooms and told me it was Honeysuckle.

Honysuckle flowers and plant in Gaziantep

Honeysuckle flowers and plant
In my mind I was still convinced that it was Jasmine, because it invoked a strong memory from my past, especially Antalya.

I think you are correct Mehpare, but my memory of Antalya is still stronger.

Thoughts

Learning from the F1 Grand Prix

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 07/06/2009

Sitting here in the UK, watching the F1 Grand Prix taking place in Istanbul, I began to feel for last years World Champion, Lewis Hamilton.

Hamilton could not be beaten last year, yet this race he has just been lapped by Jenson Button in the Brawn Mercedes. How will Hamilton feel? How is his confidence?

Not only is it Hamilton who drives the Mercedes-McLaren that is down in the race placing, but so is Massa who drives the Ferrari.

What is happening?

Like anything we do, we have to have the right tools to do the job as well as having the knowledge, experience and competence.

We also have to have a good team behind us to support us.

Without all components in place working together to the full potential we will not win.

There has been other things I have noticed. Although the F1 drivers are racing each other, fighting to gain a place, there is respect for each other.

Perhaps there is much to learn for us all.

PhotoReading Turkish

PhotoReading in Gaziantep, Turkey

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 05/06/2009

Another course come to an end, and the PhotoReading course in Gaziantep in Southern Turkey, (click to read feedback) was an especially fulfilling one for me, as we had fun, we learned so much together, and the participants all gained knowledge from the 5 books they PhotoRead during the three days we had together. It was as if they had spent perhaps months of study, as I listened to the feedback as they described the contents of their books that they had no knowledge of prior to coming on the course.

Some of the Photoreaders page turning on the PhotoReading course in Gaziantep, Souther Turkey.

We had a lovely girl of eleven years old, Zeynep, who held her concentration on the course the whole time, participated in all the exercises, which gave her wonderful results on the last afternoon, even amazing the adults who helped her and each other during the activation stage.

The course was for Turkish people, unfortunately, I speak no Turkish, well perhaps I can count from one to six, and know a few words like “aşkim” pronounce “ashcum“, I need translators like Mehpare Kileci of Gap Consultancy who organises and promotes my courses, to efficiently and accurately translate my training which I deliver in English. I have been very lucky in finding such people, who sit by my side and work from 9 in the morning till 6 at night. I admire their abilities and their tenacity in putting up with me.

Being that I deliver all my courses, no matter what country I am in, it means that English speaking participants can also join the course. And so Gianfranco Pozizzi, an Italian who is working for a short period of time with Gap Consultancy to teach Italian, joined the PhotoReading course.

Gianfranco Pozizzi working on Mind Maps and PhotoReading

Gianfranco brought with him five books written in Italian to learn PhotoReading, and one exercise I love to teach is to get a participant to swap a book which they have already read and understand with another participant who likewise has read and understands their book. I ask that the persons receiving the book should not have read the book or know the subject matter it contains.

Non of the Turkish participants had any knowledge of the Italian language, so I stepped in.

I have been teaching and training in Italy for over ten years, and my knowledge of the Italian language is slightly better than Turkish, I can count to ten and order a cup of tea with milk. But, I have PhotoRead the Italian-English-Italian dictionary, and by belief is that this information is in my inner subconscious mind and is available to me, plus my belief that I am a good PhotoReader enabled me to work with Gianfranco.

He took my book written in English by Owen Fitzpatrick on time management and I took Gianfranco’s to PhotoRead. This was on day two of the course, and we did not activate, or start asking questions until day three.

When I started telling Gianfranco about his book, the book I had PhotoRead, the book which I had had in my hands for perhaps twelve minutes, his mouth dropped. I had to smile to myself inside, because once again, I was able to take a book in a language I cannot speak, in a language I cannot read, but have had exposure to, and was able to know the contents.

I was even able to give Gianfranco Italian words which were important within the context of the book and which were within the book, but I did not know the meaning of.

What a convincer for Gianfranco and others on the course as he relaid what had happened after the exercise to the participants. I just hope that the book I had given him, which he was able to tell me about, will make a difference in his life to manage his time better.