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Thoughts

A Rainbow over Norbiton

The weather here in the UK today is a mixture of sunshine, showers and heavy rainstorms with claps of thunder. The high winds are driving the weather fronts quickly over Norbiton Hall, like moods we often find ourselves in, sometimes up, and sometimes down, sometimes in a dark period sometimes in a more enlighten period.

It was whilst communicating with a great friend over the internet that a very dark cloud swept over, so dark that I could not see the keyboard even though it was mid day. The rain came down from the skies leaving the road outside like a river. (click to see video).

Soon the cloud passed over, but the rain still fell in the bright sunshine, and the beauty appeared, a wonderful rainbow over the roofs of Norbiton Hall.

Life goes on, and somewhere there will be a rainbow for us all if only we are aware and look for it.


A rainbow over the roofs of Nobiton Hall

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Thoughts

Relationships change – Borders

It is said “nothing lasts forever“.

I have had a long relationship, which is going to come to an end I fear.

When the relationship finally comes to an end, I will have a period of time when I will feel lost, empty, longing for the days when I go and visit for my pleasure.

The book shops own by Borders here in the UK, has gone into administration, that is to say that the company could soon cease trading, that they are trading at a loss.

I love researching for information, reading books, more books and more books, and Borders was my favorites book shop. Their selection of books was wide a varied, their staff always willing to talk and impart knowledge.

As with friendships, business relationship, associations, circumstances change, and sometimes the circumstances are out of our control, and the relationship must come to an end.

Sorry to loose you as you are coming to an end Borders, I will sadly miss you, Now I will have to find a replacement for you.

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Rotary Club KOT

My Job Talk to Rotary International Club

It was a privilage to be able to give a talk today to Kingston upon Thames Rotary Club about the work I do around the world, giving training in NLP, Hypnosis, Stage Hypnosis, phobia curesPhotoReading, Mind Maps and Memory techniques.


Kingston upon Thames Rotary Club

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Thoughts

I am not the star of the show

I have put my thoughts down in the articles I am like a theatre and I am a theatre on tour, and I would like to add some advice I had from a great American Stage Hypnotist and trainer, Jerry Valley whom I learned such a lot from, enabling me to become a Stage Hypnotist myself.

He said that the performer, the actor, the trainer is not the star of the show, it is the audience, the participants who are the stars.

If ever the person on stage, the Stage Hypnotist, the leader, the trainer, ever becomes the star, then the show is over.

It is an idea that I have taken into all my trainings, courses, presentations.

I am not the star.

I may be the leader, the person the people or participants follow on their journey of learning. I may be the guide, but that is all I am. I must take the people on a journey, using whatever may be in my toolbox of training and communication skills to paint a picture so that they can understand what is being said and that they can make the changes they seek, to place and install what has been taught  into their lifestyle.

Some people may appreciate my style of imparting information, others may not. Some people like jazz music, some people like opera. There is a place for all styles, and to experience different styles can give us choice, perhaps being a jazz fan and experiencing opera for the first time will enhance the appreciation of jazz, perhaps listening to opera for the first time will enable you to become equally a jazz and opera fan at the same time, perhaps listening to opera for the first time will mean that opera becomes the preferred style, or perhaps it means that opera becomes a type of music that will be never visited again. But now you have choice. 

I know that I have touched many hearts in my journey, and that I have helped people to gain and change, so I am looking forward to the future to meet many more, in many more countries, being able to offer many styles of training.

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Being Aware, Awakening

Too many times I am aware that I am to wrapped up in my own problems, and not seeing the wider picture, of what is happening to other people, to listen what they saying to me, what information they are giving me, in fact, what information is available to me in the outside world.

As I watch other people, I also observe the same attitude, people just wandering around in their own world, missing vital clues, missing opportunities, missing messages of change, missing signals, even missing money just waiting to be picked up on the street. (see Playing with Phillip’s Sausage).

These clues, these messages are picked up. Not perhaps consciously, but certainly subconsciously, and we fail to recognise the signals the subconscious gives us, we let the opportunities pass us by.

We are too centered in our vision, which is called foveal vision, we are too aware of our own internal dialog to hear and notice external sounds, we are too attentive on our own state to notice the feelings, smells and tastes that are all around us.

Perhaps it is George Millers’ 7 +/- 2, where we delete, distort and generalise, resulting in our own Map of the Territory, or cat on the mat.

By becoming aware of the peripheral signals, messages from the outside world, signals both internally and externally, perhaps by using La Salsiccia di Phillip, Phillip’s Sausage, by having an active dialog between our conscious and unconscious, being aware what the subconscious is telling us, we can enhance our world, as Freud said making “a decisive step towards a new orientation in the world and in science“, or Gregory Bateson said to be in “uptime” or having the use of “loose thinking.

Our subconscious, unconscious mind does notice these signals or messages, and we have to start to notice them. Our eyes will look at an object, but we fail to see consciously what we looked at. We make movements, perhaps a change in step, perhaps by a hand signal, perhaps a change in our breathing, our heart rate.

Why are we making these signals?

What to they mean?

Bateson stated that we should :-

        a) use peripheral vision as opposed to foveal vision
        b) focus on external sounds instead of our own internal dialog
        c) have no excess emotional thoughts and to be in a physically relaxed state.

Walk around the streets, and start to notice the signals you have missed before given by the unconscious mind.

For example, when you notice you take a deep breath in, STOP in your tracks STOP what you are doing, and go back just before you took the deep breath in and ask, “why did I take that deep breath in?”

When you notice your eyes flicked to an object, even for an instant, a fraction of a second, STOP, and ask, “why did I look at that item, what did I notice?”

When that involuntary movement happens, STOP, and ask,”why did I make that movement, what did I notice, what do I notice now?”

By stopping and noticing what happened to you, what did you notice that you were unaware of, you will begin to see more, hear more, feel more, to start to have an active dialog between our conscious and unconscious, to have what Robert Dilts calls in his book From Coach to Awakener, an awakening, or Dr Win Wenger of Project Renaissance called Side Bands.

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Thoughts

I am a theatre on tour

Yes I am a theatre, as I wrote about in the article I am like a theatre, but I am a theatre on tour.

My work takes me around the world, China, Malaysia, Sri Lanka, India, Bahrain, Saudi Arabia, Turkey, Italy etc, giving courses, training people, passing-on knowledge, and working with people, and unlike the UK where I also give training, I am not the producer, I am not the organiser, I co-produce with the local organisers who become part of the theatre.

As I guest, as a co-producer, and sometimes a member of the actors or training team, I have to fit into their style, their play, their script, their culture, their understanding, their requirements.

My trainings can be said to be something like a theatre production is Mama Mia, Cats, in the West End of London or on Broadway in New York. That is my play, my musical, that I have rehearsed, that I know, that I am comfortable with and people come to see that.

Then I am asked to be part of someone else’s production, someones else’s training, to join a team of actors working on an operatic production in La Scala in Milano.

I have to be ready to change my performance, put on a new set of clothes, a new costume. Yes it will be uncomfortable for me at the beginning, and it could be strange for those that come to see the production, like knowing a famous pop star suddenly singing an opera, a comedian changing roles to play in a tragedy.

It is good to be adaptable and to love my profession, my job.

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Thoughts

I am like a theatre

Some years ago, a participant attending one of my courses said to me that “I am like a theatre“.

This confused me, and I did not have chance to asked why I was like a theatre until the next day. All sort of ideas raced through my mind as I tried to unravel the saying.

Was it that I was run down, repeating the same production time after time?

Was it that I was producing material which was for a small specialised audience?

Was it that I am only open certain times of the day?

What was it?

When I met with the participant again, I asked what did they mean “I am like a theatre“.

It was explained that, I was like a play in a theatre.

I am the author, putting together the content of the course, and arranging the sequence of the content so the participants can follow.

I am the producer, often arranging the venues, the facilities, handouts, the dates, the advertising and marketing.
 
I am the theatre manager, making sure that the facilities and layout of the room/s are correct.

I am the stage manager, arranging the running of and the timing of the course, making sure any assistants and translators are doing the job correctly.

I am the administration, or the back office, collecting the course fees, printing the certificates, sending and receiving messages, keeping the diary.

I am the musicians, making sure that the appropriate music is played at the right time.

I am the director, keeping the course on track, making any changes that need to be made.

I am the actor, standing in front of the participants, giving the information.

That is what I love about my job.

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Culture

Train Spotting, a very British hobby

Whilst undertaking exercises in the NLP Practitioner and Master Practitioner courses in the many countries I go to, I ask participants to recall perhaps their hobbies, and as an example I will mention the British hobby of Train Spotting.

In non UK country courses, Italy, Turkey etc, the participants look at me in a very strange way. Train Spotting? Am I deluded? Am I mad?

As a boy, yes many years ago, I remember riding long distances on my bicycle with my friends, to stand by the mainline rail track from Manchester and Scotland to London, the Trent Valley Line, to collect train numbers and  and train names. Those were the days of steam trains.

Each train would have its’ own characteristics, but be a member of a “class” or type of engine, and each train would have its’ own individual number and most likely a name.

Depending upon the use of the engine, hauling passenger carriages or goods trucks, the speed required, and the distance to be covered, so the “class” of train would change.

The configuration of the wheels of the engine would also distinguish the type of engine. There are two types of wheels on a steam engine, non powered wheels often small wheels called pilot wheels, and larger powered wheels or driving wheels.

      

In the first animation above there are four small pilot wheels at the front, six driving wheels, and two pilot wheels, (coloured red), making it a class 4-6-2. The second has four small pilot and six driving wheels and no rear pilot, making it a 4-6-0 class engine.

Each class of train could also be given a name, the last steam locomotive built by British Railways the Evening Star class was a 2-10-0 type. The Britannia class was a 4-6-2 as was the Clan class.

Full details including photographs of the classes of trains would be listed in a small book in the I-Spy series, a must to have for a boy train spotter like me, which could be crossed matched with my hand written notes of spotted trains, when and where I saw them.

Oh power they had, and the wonderful smell of the steam locomotive, the mixture of coal smoke, steam and oil. I used to love to stand on a bridge to be enveloped by the steam as the train passed beneath.

Those were the days.

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NLP

Society of NLP Master Practitioner course in Milano

With perhaps sixty participants on the Society of NLP Master Practitioner course in Milano it was a great weekend for me to train the people in my style Sub Modalities, suppressing the critical voice and future pacing.

I love working with large groups, there is a different dynamic, and it is really interesting to watch the participants in how they receive my information, how they accept or reject what I am saying, and how participants try to influence others and how others are influenced.

I find it easier to train large groups, the larger the better. When there are just a few people participating, individual personalities, rise to the surface and can influence the outcome of the course, whereas in a large group, these strong personalities become subdued.

Some participants perhaps do not like being in a large course, rather having a near one-to-one training experience, but as long as I can get the participants to stretch their comfort zone, working on exercises with different partners, they will have a better experience and learn more.

Yes I had to adapt to a training session I did not expect, but I know the participants left on Sunday afternoon having gone to a deeper level of NLP than they expected. And yes, there is a reason I tell a story about Singapore and my mother.

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NLP

It is good to be adaptable

It is good to be adaptable, especially when training, and that is what I am happy in doing, to arise to the occasion when circumstances require change.

As part of the training team, or guest trainer with NLPItaly, I am asked to give weekend training and asked to cover certain elements of NLP for the participants, so mostly I know what I am doing. This was so this weekend, I had prepared my work with handouts on my one and only day back in the UK.

I met on my walk to the Hilton Hotel a fellow trainer who informed me of the plans for the week end. It had changed, everyone else knew except me.

Oh Poo Poo.

Still that is the fun of training, here’s to a great weekend for everyone where ever you may be.