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NLP Phobias Travels

Removing Phobias and Fears, Confidence Building

Much of my life at the moment is delivering courses, NLP, Coaching, Hypnosis, Stage Hypnosis, Memory, Mind Maps and PhotoReading, to the general public and companies, but I also work with individuals with their issues.

These issues could be phobias (click to see your phobia), fears, lack of confidence, presentation skills, self-esteem, smoking, drugs, eating disorders, whatever, I will and have worked with them. 

I only see the client once, but that session can be as long as it takes to have the successful outcome the client wants. You can click here to read about some of the recommendations and work I have done.

My other offer to my clients is that I will go/travel to them, their home, their hotel, their office. This has taken me to some far places for the day, Rome, Northern Ireland, airport departure lounges, police stations. It is all in a days work, and I love it.

Yesterday I visited Rochester, a town east of London. This journey took me from my home town of Kingston upon Thames, into the train station Waterloo in Central London, change to another train line, and then out the other side of London to Rochester.

I prefer the train in some ways as it is cheaper, and I can sit and read the newspaper, watch the countryside slip passed, work, or just relax in my own thoughts.

There are only two things it is believed that the human is naturally frightened or phobic about, and these are falling and load noises, everything else is learned.
 
What can be learned can be unlearned.

It is so satisfying to work with people, put them at ease with me, and to work with them without them really realising I am working with them.

The quickest I have removed phobias or fears is probably seconds.

Traveling out of Heathrow to Italy, a lady and her friend sitting and waiting in the departure lounge were talking. She caught sight of the aircraft, and went into a flaming phobic fit.

I walked up to her and said “do you want to get rid of it?” 

She nodded, and I did my thing, and it had gone. Her friend turned to her and asked if she was OK, as they continued their conversation.

I watched them all the way to Milan, chatting away as the rest of the passengers were, yet she never thanked me.

Often I never hear again from my clients, after all, why should I hear from them.

Often they say that they could not have had a phobia in the first place.

Others say it is bazare that the old feelings and thoughts are gone.

I love my job.

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NLP Travels

NLP Master Practitioner, Milan

A wonderful time in Milan, Italy, awaited me, with very open and willing participants on the Society of NLP’s Master Practitioner course.

This Sunday we learned about unconscious processes, relaxation, and the eyes closed process.

                                        Jack Frost for my ice cream.

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NLP Travels

My ‘annus mirabilis’

‘Annus mirabilis’ is a Latin phrase meaning a year of wonders or miracles. It was first coined in a poem by John Dryden called Annus Mirabilis: the year of wonders 1666. In 1992 the Queen of England, Queen Elizabeth II, used it to describe the year that the marriages of her two sons Charles and Andrew broke down and Windsor Castle caught fire.

For me it has been a journey, firstly by my Angioplasty, or the insertion of a stent in a coronary artery, followed by ever increasing training courses around the globe.

I love my work, there is nothing better than to have delivered a course or courses, in no matter what language, in whatever country, and see participants leaving happy having had learned and achieved so much.

There has been down times, which could have really spoiled my year if I did not know about “Oh Poo Poo” (click to understand), being able to control my state thanks to my knowledge of NLP, and the support and friendship of many around me.

The last couple of weeks has been not good.

Firstly I knew that the company that organises my trainings in Turkey, NLPGrup, would not pay me, despite promises made that payments would be made, deep down I knew the promises were of no value. But, I had made commitments, promises, people and companies were relying upon me to deliver, and they had paid good money to NLPGrup. I did not wish to get a bad name for not delivering.

I was proved right. Still water under the bridge, I will carry on delivering my training in other countries plus Turkey.

My phone system using the VoIP (Voice over the Internet Protocol) DualPhone 3088 stopped working, the base station seems to have stopped working, and trying to get a replacement out of SKYPE or even contact them seems to be impossible.

My mobile phone kept on freezing when people telephoned me, so I was loosing phone calls, the only way out was to reset the phone. (Orange SPV M3100). Plus I could not interface and update mobile phone and computer since renewing my subscription, updating and installing Norton 360 security software.

Perhaps I could get a new phone out of Orange my service provider. But no, they told me to do a hard reset, which meant I would loose all my contacts and diary on my phone. OK I thought, next week after my trip to Italy, I will update the data on my phone, at least I can receive telephone calls.

I had an accident whilst in Turkey, when a cup containing tea collapsed on my computer keyboard (click to read), leaving some keys inoperable. A small portable keyboard solved that problem.

Oh Poo Poo, just carry on.

I had a PhotoReading course last weekend to deliver in Milan, Italy last weekend (2nd – 4th November 2007), despite the early start to catch the 6am flight to Milan from London, I felt good.

With my translator Elena Martelli (click) we set-up the rather small room, creating an unusual seating configuration which worked beautifully. I had no external speakers for my music on my computer, but the sound out of the computer was just acceptable.

The last job was to attach my projector to the computer so I could show slides. When I did the music became corrupted, emitting strange sounds. I knew something was wrong.

I tried to switch my computer of. Nothing happened. This was worse than I could have expected. My whole computer was gone. I could do nothing. No music, no slides, no Mind Maps of the course structure, all was lost.

We borrowed an IPod from Alessio Roberti of NLPItaly, not my choice of music, but it would more than do. Sunday, that packed-up working. Oh Poo Poo.


Thinking I would need a new computer, and knowing I have lost all my data, I put on a bright face, at least I have a good excuse to purchase a new computer, and I have backup, albeit a couple of months old.

I managed to reconfigure my computer, get it working again, by reloading the operating system, but that meant loosing all my programmes, data, videos, photos or contact details, now I am naked, I have nothing, neither on my computer or mobile phone.

It has taken me three days now to get partially back, ready to travel to Milan again this weekend to deliver another course, this time to an NLP Master Practitioner course. I will have my music.

Keep myself smiling, in a good state, that is the key. Trouble is Mee Len is ill, having sickness and diarera, and it has been nearly a week, continually running to the toilet, poor thing, she is so weak, not eating or sleeping well. I am the nurse now, trying to do one hundred things at once.

This has been my ‘Annus mirabilis’, but there is only one way to go, and that is up with a smile on my face, to meet new people and new challenges, and at least I am alive.

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NLP Travels

Formula for success

BBC World is at currently showing a series on the TV called Formula for Success (click to view web page of BBC World). It combines the excitement of the premier league of F1 motor sport with the insights of business theory and practice.

It tells how working as a team creates a better working environments, higher sustained levels of performance, workable strategies, all over the global markets of business and in sport.

Simply taking the strategies of F1 motor sport, being able to organise and run the sport, the business, so successfully, how these strategies can be applied to global and local business.

Providing training, consulting, talks around the world, I am a global business. Although my business is me, I rely many people in the countries I work in, to work as a team within their own company or organization, and to include me in that team.

Unfortunately I had to cancel a course in Istanbul as there were not enough participants to fill the seats, to pay for the expenses, fees, salaries etc. I apologize to those who wished to work with me, but I will be rerunning the course in the near future.

This rearrangement of my schedule meant that I had to fly back to the UK 2 or 3 days early. I arrived at Istanbul’s Ataturk airport, only to find that I had to pay a £50 penalty for changing my flight dates. 

I telephoned my local UK taxi service to meet me at London’s Heathrow airport on my arrival, usually half an hour after landing, but normally they arrive later, meaning I am standing around waiting for them.

The Turkish Airlines aircraft did not go to a normal stand, which would allow a gantry to be placed on the aircraft so we could get off, obviously we would have to get off by stairs and bused to the airport terminal. Sure enough the coaches arrived, and the passengers raced to get all there baggage out of overloaded overhead lockers, pushing and shoving to get to the doors.

Looking out of the window, I could see that there were no stairs, so alighting was not going to happen straight away, so I sat still, which proved a wise move, as five minutes later, the captain announced that there would be a delay, as there were no stairs available, and asked passengers to sit down. Most did, but those who MUST be first at all cost, pushed even more forward to be first.

I just smiled to myself.

It was 1 hour 40 minutes later, that the stairs arrived. Oh I did feel sorry (not) for those standing all that time.

Once the stairs arrived, some passengers still pushed to get off the aircraft, yet we would all get on the same bus and leave the aircraft for the terminal.

What was the point of pushing and trying to get one place ahead?

Because I use the Iris system that means I do not have to show my passport, the technology recognizes my eyes and lets me through passport control. It is fast, so I am in baggage collection usually first. As a frequent flyer, they usually put a label saying “Priority”, but it seems that means put the bag on the carousel last. And so it was yesterday.

I waited and waited, which made me even later. That meant the taxi driver having to wait, so I had to pay him waiting time plus extra parking fees.

The whole travel and world business, needs team work, trust and honour, to honour agreements to the best of our ability. Sometimes teamwork is not implemented, and the good work of others fails.

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NLP Recommendation Türkçe Turkish Videos

A recommendation for my training in Turkey spoken in Türkçe

Another recommendation in English on my training in October 2007, in Istanbul Turkey by Özgür Yılmaz, this time in Turkish (Türkçe).

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NLP Recommendation Türkçe Turkish Videos

A recommendation for my training in Turkey

Another recommendation in English on my training in October 2007, in Istanbul Turkey.

Özgür Yılmaz helped with the translation from my training in the English language into Turkish for Şükrü Kılıç.




Thank you for your support and effort Özgür we will work together in the future.
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NLP Türkçe Turkish Videos

A recommendation to the training given in Turkey

In October 2007 I gave a training course on NLP in Istanbul, Turkey.

This is a recommendation by Şükrü Kılıç, a participant on the course in Turkish.


Thank you Şükrü for the effort you put into the exercises and the course itself, but most of all your comments.

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Memory NLP Travels

Browned Off

In the English language we have many sayings, some of which have a similar saying in other cultures and languages.

“Browned Off” has a meaning that one has had enough of a situation, the situation has gone on too long, that one is “fed up“.

Perhaps you have been talking to someone and they continually tell you the same story time and time again, they will not shut up, you become fed-up of hearing the same thing, you become bored, upset, you switch off.

Perhaps you ask someone to do something, and no matter how much they promise to do that thing, to pay an invoice, get or make a drink, organise or produce something, they fail to honour that promise, but you keep asking, asking, negotiating, and they fail to deliver, saying “next week”, “soon” etc.

You get fed-up or “Browned Off” of asking, and you stop asking. 

Perhaps you retaliate by not asking them to do anything again, you stop even working, and they wonder why.

This morning I had that experience.

I woke up on a bright Sunday morning, on the last day of a course I am giving in Istanbul.

The previous night I had learned that the clocks were to go back one hour, so that meant I could have an extra hours sleep, which I badly needed.  Trouble was the staff in the company that currently organises my training in Turkey, did not learn of this extra hour, and thus opened the offices at eight (8am). Pity they have no understanding what is happening in the world around, their environment.

I love a shower first thing in the morning. It washes away the body smells, the sweat that we generate during sleep.

As I stand in the shower, with the water flowing down my body, I practice Hara, Mustapha, Antonio, Fred, re-enforcing my power, like a rock, a statue, an oak tree.

Standing there, I also imagine all the Poo Poo that has happened to me the previous day, my bad thoughts and feelings. I give them a colour, black, orange, yellow, whatever, and I imagine these feelings, thoughts being washed away with the shower water, seeing the colour, the feelings washing away, down the body, and as the water swirls down the plug or drain hole, I let those thoughts, feelings, all the Poo Poo vanish.

I looked at the water as it began to run from the tape, and it had a light brown tinge to it, which is nothing if there has been some maintenance work, just run the water for a while.

The more I looked at the water coming from the tape in the bath, the browner it got. It went from a light brown , darker and darker, until it was the colour of mud, and this had been after five minutes. I had turned the tap on with full flow, too much for the water to drain out off the plug, so the bath began to fill up, and I noticed brown deposits beginning to build up.

Five minutes later it was still coming out of the tap dark brown, so for ten minutes I stood there waiting for my shower. It paid off, because the brown liquid started to clear, to get lighter, until it became clear like crystal.

Now I could have my refreshing shower, to clear away the Poo Poo that had built-up. I thought as I got into the shower, what a horrid experience the brown water had been, but at least the rest of the hotel guests will not have to experience it, as I had cured the problem.

I stood there cleansing myself, and looked down into the bath, and noticed a brown ring running around were the water had been.

Poo Poo happens, and it will leave it’s mark on our life experiences, our memories. But we can deal with it. I am ready for a great day for the participants. 

I feel better.

Now I wait for a new day to run, just like the marathon starting here on Sunday, in the empty streets of Istanbul.

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NLP

Sidebands – Win Wenger


Today rather than take transport for the whole journey, I had a walk to the course I was giving.
 
It was half way into this walk that I noticed there was not a cloud in the sky, and how blue the sky was. Although I did not stop walking, I became aware of other sights and sounds around me. I had not realised how tall some of the buildings were in Istanbul, and how beautiful some were. I began to notice signs, advertisements high up on the buildings and in the upper windows. How many of these signs were being seen by the general public? I had never seen them before.

I have worked with a great trainer, thinker, Dr Win Wenger, author of the Einstein Factor and originator of ImageStreaming a system to increase your intelligence and IQ, and founder of Project Renaissance, a place of development and sharing of Win Wenger’s ideas.

In his work, he describes how you should on occasions just stop and notice what is happening to you.

What is in your mind? What do you notice?

Become aware of everything about you, what you hear, see or feel. Become aware of your peripheral awareness, or Phillip’s sausage.

How often are we only aware or just pay attention to that, that is in our conscious awareness, not realising other things are there.

I remember once getting up and wanting to have breakfast as I was hungry. Going into the kitchen and seeing a box of Honey Crunch Flakes. I place the last remaining flakes into a bowl, but there was not enough to satisfy my hunger, and I spied an old box of Special “K” Flakes with strawberries.

I was not wearing my glasses, which I only need for reading, but placed some Special “K” into the bowl, and went for a shower before adding milk.

When I returned clean and refreshed, something told me to look into the bowl before adding the milk. I was glad, as the flakes seemed to be moving, even without my glasses, I could see little worm like things, little flies or insects moving about.

My subconscious had told me something was wrong, but I had to have been aware of what I was being told by my subconscious as my blurred eyes had not told me.

Just stop now, and take a moment to listen to the sounds about you, and ask what are those sounds.

Look around you, and notice the little things you have missed, it could be a pen, a mark on the wall. What is it, how did it get there?

Notice your own feelings. Are they good? If not change your state now to a good state.

Notice the Sidebands as Win Wenger calls the, the things that are outside your normal awareness.

Take control.

Note. Having worked with Win Wenger, I am pleased to say that I have been accredited to become a trainer of his work. Please contact for further details. [email protected]

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Mind Maps NLP PhotoReading

PhotoReading – Is it Reading?

A comment was posted by Marius (click to see link) from I believe Romania, which said:-
 
    “In the photo reading I’m sceptically about the possibility to create meanings, understandings
    and links between the new knowledges and the old ones in the short time of readings.”

Firstly, PhotoReading is not reading in the conventional sense, but is a system, a whole mind system, and it has many stages, in fact five.

Let us firstly consider the human mind, how it accepts, absorbs, processes and retrieves information, as I have written in previous blogs. I will provide links where appropriate.

We can look at the work of George Miller and his assumption that the human mind can only accept 7+/-2 pieces of information at any one time, let me add, at a conscious level.   Read blog, click here.

Please note at a conscious level, because just like a camera captures the whole scene onto the film with the opening and closing of the shutter, so in the blink of the eye, the image that enters the lens of the eye, affects the rods and cones, the light receptors, at the back of the eye, which are then passed to visual cortex for processing by the brain.

Here the 7+/-2 principle takes effect, the NLP statement that the human brain deletes, distorts and generalises information, that as an iceberg, we are only consciously aware of what is above the surface level. Yet, the information has entered the brain, and at some level has had an effect on the brain.

Yes, we are not consciously aware of it. The course of PhotoReading teaches you how to access this information, to go below the surface level.

So, there are five stages to PhotoReading, there is the :-

            Prepare  getting yourself and the book or material ready, especially yourself with a good purpose.
            Preview  getting an overview, an outline of the information.
            PhotoRead / page turning  absorbing the information into the inner mind. A page a second.
            Activation  using techniques to access, to bring to the conscious level desired knowledge.
            Rapid Read  to get a greater comprehension by going through the whole book, front to back.

Although the page turning at a page a second, or absorbing 20,000 – 30,000 words per minute (WPM), may take only a few minutes, the whole process will take as long as you require, perhaps three hours, including Mind Mapping (click to see web site) the results, for the purpose you have.

Not only do you learn the processes, but also learn relaxation techniques, to help the brain to absorb, process and retrieve information from the inner mind.

To make an understanding of any received information, in any of the modalities V,A,K,O or G, we have to go on the transderivational search, which accesses previously learned information, or old memory or neuron pathways. From this transderivational search, new information is linked to old learnings, even at the subconscious level.

By going through the processes 4 and 5 of the PhotoReading above, these old and new memory/neuron pathways and links or associations are reinforced.

As a trainer, it is my task to remove skepticism, low esteem, and inappropriate beliefs, to give confidence to do the system and to use it.

In NLP it is believed that if others can do something, then you can too. 

                                                Try it, you might like it.