Category: NLP

CAUSE AND EFFECT

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Cause and Effect is the implied implication that one thing has a direct effect on another, by doing one thing it will cause another thing to happen, but there is no evidence to support or demonstrate that statement.
 
Words that may be heard with a Cause and Effect statement could be:-

            “makes, because, then, since, so”

An example of a Cause and Effect statement:-

            “It is your fault she left you because you did not like her chocolate cake.”

This could be challenged by:-

            “What makes you think that she left me because of her chocolate cake?”

Statement:-

            “You do not love me any more because you do not buy me flowers.”

Challenge:-

            “Why do you believe me not buying you flowers means I do not love you? You suffer from hay fever.”

MIND READING

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Mind Reading occurs when someone claims to think they know what another is thinking without verification.

            “I know you do not love me anymore.”

How does the speaker know that? How do they know how the person thinks or believes?

Mind Reading is believing we know the thoughts, intentions, feelings, meanings, motivation, or internal processes of another person – with no basis in a reasonable way, or not having logical grounds for interpretation or direct, sensory observation of that person.

The Mind Reading statements are challenged by asking simply “how do you know?”.

            “You do not like me anymore.”

            “What makes you think that I do not like you anymore?”

The speaker has to go on a transderivational search, (click to read) to verify what their statement actually means, which once found can be challenge.

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SENSORY

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Sensory words will be given, that will lack clarity or precise meaning, and the NLP Practitioner will chunk down to access the missing inner meaning of what is being communicated.

            “feel, gut, happy, sad,”

all involve our senses, but do not define precisely what are those sensory words, and will be challenge.

            “What precisely do you feel about this?”

Sensory words, also define what modality the person is communicating in, V.A.K.O.G. (Visual, Auditory, Kinesthetic, Olfactory, Gustatory), which will allow the NLP Practitioner the possibility of using the same modality to gain rapport and understanding.

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TIME AND SPACE

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We will often communicate our understanding of what we understand as being in respect of Time and Space.

We will use such words for time as:-

            “before, after, as, now, soon. first, firstly, second, secondly.” etc

            “Before you do this job, I want you to read this book.”

            “The first thing I want you to do is read this book, then tell me about it.”

The NLP Practitioner will challenge the time words, to chunk down to be more specific, to have a precise time frame.

            “When specifically will this be?”

For space words we may use:-

            “over there, here, behind, in front.” etc

            “The book is over there.”

The NLP Practitioner will challenge the space words, to chunk down to be more specific, to have a precise place.

            “Were specifically do you mean?”

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PREDICATES

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Predicates are process words indicating how and what representational systems we are using.

When we process information we will represent or code the information internally using our senses which are known as our representational systems or rep system.

The main rep systems are Visual (V), Auditory (A), Kinsaesthetic (K), with the other minor two, Olfactory (O) and Gustatory (G). Also we have Auditory Digital or Internal Dialog, people talking to themselves.

When we communicate this stored internal information we will use process words, verbs, adverbs and adjectives to identify the rep systems we are using to process the information. These process words are know as Predicates.

By understanding what Representational Systems people are communicating in, we can gain Rapport and communicate better.

Predicates can be further recognised when used in conjunction with Eye Accessing Cues (click to view).

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MODAL OPERATORS

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Modal Operators fall into two categories:-

            1.    Modal Operators of Possibility 
            2.    Modal Operators of Necessity .

A Model Operator changes the way we process the information we are given, and consist of words such as:-

            “can, cannot, should, might, may, will, want, wont, have, try, possible, impossible.” et al.   

The predicate (click to read) or modal operator will affect the way the instruction is processed, and the outcome. 

            “You can go to bed,” implies that there is a possibility that they may or may not go to bed. 1. above.
            “You should go to bed,” implies that there is a possibility that they may or may not go to bed. 1. above.
            “You may go to bed,” implies that there is a possibility that they may or may not go to bed. 1. above.

            “You must go to bed,” implies that there is a necessity that they should go to bed. 2. above.
            “You have to go to bed,” implies that there is a necessity that they should go to bed. 2. above.
            “You must go to bed,” implies that there is a necessity that they should go to bed. 2. above.

Modal operators can used in the positive (can, will, must) or negative form (cannot, won’t, mustn’t). Typical challenges to these are as follows:

            “I can’t do that.” can be challenged by “What stops you?”

            “I can’t do anything right?” can be challenged by “What prevents you?”

Presuppositions

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A Presupposition makes an assumption that some person, event or something exists, although that person, event or that something has not been mentioned in the conversation or communication.

There is a Presupposition that the listener will understand or insert the missing information.

            “Do you want to go again”

This presupposes that you have done something in the past, presupposes that something can be done again, and presupposes that you have a choice of doing or not doing that something.

            “It is raining.”

Presupposes that there is a place where it is raining.

            “The cat sat on the mat.”

Presupposes that there is a cat, that there is a mat, that there is the act of sitting on a mat, and that there is a place where the cat and the mat is.

The NLP Practitioner will chunk down, too get more information about which has been assumed, by asking such questions as:-

            “What type of cat is it?”
            “What colour is the cat?”
            “What colour is the mat?”
            “Where is the mat?”
            “How specifically did the cat sit on the mat?”

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