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NLP Associated and Disassociated

Post author By nlpnowcom
Post date 04/06/2008

We all have internal thoughts about what we have done, what we are doing and will be doing, and these thoughts will use the five (5) modalities, five (5) senses or representational systems, of V,A,K,O,G, being :-

                Visual (seeing),
                Auditory (hearing and speech),
                Kinesthetic (touch, feelings, both internal and external),
                Olfactory (smell),
                Gustatory (taste).

We experience our world by internalising or thinking about about that experience.

Those thoughts could be associated, by running that experience as if we were/are/will be actually doing that experience.

Alternatively, we may be thinking about the experience, and it is as if they are watching ourselves doing that activity, this is called disassociated.

If we describe how we eat in a restaurant, and talk about the type of food, the layout of the table, the taste of the wine, as if we are experiencing it now, as if we are physically doing eating, looking through our own eyes, feeling and tasting the food, we are associated into the experience.

If we describe how we eat in a restaurant, and describe the experience as if we are looking at ourselves from a distance, from another’s point of view, then we are disassociated from the experience.

The person can have only one experience, associated or disassociated.

NLP Thoughts

See from anothers point of view

Post author By nlpnowcom
Post date 03/06/2008

I like you, get many sayings, thought provoking ideas, jokes and junk emails, but sometimes I get one that makes me sit up, to have a “ah” experience, seeing things from another’s point of view.

Today I was sent a poem which gave me a “ah” experience. OK, a bit of a joke poem, but look below the surface level, there may be some truth in there.

Written by an African kid.

                                                        When I born, I black
                                                        When I grow up, I black

                                                        When I go in Sun, I black
                                                        When I scared, I black

                                                        When I sick, I black
                                                        And when I die, I still black

                                                        And you white fellow
                                                        When you born, you pink
                                                        When you grow up, you white
                                                        When you go in sun, you red

                                                        When you cold, you blue
                                                        When you scared, you yellow

                                                        When you sick, you green
                                                        And when you die, you gray

                                                        And you calling me coloured?

It is how we see and understand our world that leads to problems.

It is when we see things from others points of view, put their shoes on, that we see the real world.

See perceptual positions exercise.

Exercises NLP

NLP Now Fast Phobia Cure

Post author By nlpnow
Post date 02/06/2008

Türkçe versiyonu

The NLP Fast Phobia Cure, is an extremely effective way of removing or replacing a phobia or fear by the use of the imagination and trance, although trance or hypnosis is not required.

Again as mentioned before in my articles, and I must emphasize, that it is not required that the NLP Practitioner needs to know, as with most of NLP work, what the problem is.

NLP is content free.

The set-up of the NLP Fast Phobia Cure will be as the Six Step Reframe, i.e. gain rapport and explain what will be happening.

The process involves the idea of being in a cinema, and the use of association and disassociation. (to follow in the next fewdays, then click to understand).

The client will be asked to run a film in their imagination of the first time an incident occurred, it is of no relevance that the client has any conscious knowledge of what that incident will be, allow the subconscious to do the work.

Firstly, allow the client to enter into a state of relaxation, trance or a sleep like state, and guide them into a cinema.

Once in the cinema, they should sit relaxed looking up at a big white screen.

Inside a cinema Inside a cinema, The Steuben Theatre in Hornell, NY.

The Steuben Theatre in Hornell, NY

At this point ask them to imagine that they can float outside that person sitting relaxed looking up at the big white screen, and see other them sitting there. The client will now be disassociated.

The client should then go to the back of the cinema, and enter the projector room, and look through the little square widow, through which the film shown, down to the other them, sitting, looking up at the big white screen.

Again, the client is disassociated from the other them sitting down in the cinema.

Tell the client that they can run a film, in black and white, no sound, of the first time the incident happened that caused the phobia, “from the beginning before the incident occurred, when they were safe, all the way through to the end, when they were safe, and it was all over and done with.”

They are to watch the other them through the little square window, watching the film on the big white screen.

Run the film three times, from the beginning to the end.

On completion of running the film forwards, run the film backwards three times, with the client watching the other them, disassociated, “from the end when it was all over and done with, to the beginning before it started, when they were safe”.

Let them see the other them, laughing, yet relaxed watching the film running backwards.

On completion, ask the client to leave the projection room, and go back into the cinema, seeing that other them, sitting so relaxed, and ask them to float inside that other them, becoming that other them.

Ask them to leave the cinema.

It is at this point I wish to test my work, and I ask them to become a super hero, leave the cinema, and see themselves, (disassociated), doing the thing they once had a phobia about in a new positive way.

Once they have seen themselves achieving what they wanted, they can then associate back into the new them, becoming that new them, having had done the work.

The Fast Phobia Cure uses association and disassociation, re-patterning memory traces by running the memory backwards of the incident that caused the phobia or fear, and future pacing.

As with all my work, I like to test, and will often ask the client to experience for real, a situation where once they had a phobia or fear.

Visit www.c4phobias.com for more information and book a session.

Exercises NLP

Six (6) Step Reframe, the process

Post author By nlpnowcom
Post date 31/05/2008

Türkçe versiyonu

Previously I have given the Six Step Reframe structure, (click here), and some of my readers and participants have asked that I tell them my way of delivering the process.

My first task is to gain rapport and trust with my client, and to establish what their needs or the outcome from the session to be.

An explanation as to the concept of parts is then covered, that there is a conscious and subconscious mind, a creative mind, and a critical mind.

The conscious mind is that mind that we are aware of, our thinking mind, the mind you are reading this article with, the questioning mind.

The subconscious mind, is that mind that we are unaware of, the mind that sits in the background controlling our behaviour, our automotive systems, the none questioning mind that is there to protect us, to do the best for us.

Then there is the creative mind, the mind that can think of new ways of doing things, that is looking methods.

Lastly for the Six Step Reframe, we think of the critical mind, that part of us that finds faults, the negative mind, criticises what we and others do.

To further place the client at ease, an explanation of relaxation, trance or hypnosis is required should the client be unfamiliar with such techniques.

Please click on and read the following links for more information.

Hypnosis – Expectations

Hypnosis – What is it?

Hypnosis – A natural State

Place the client into a trance like state, and take them on a journey. My preferred method is to take them to a cinema, so that I can ask them to watch a film that shows “the good times, the happy times, times that they may have forgotten about“. This is to distract the conscious mind.

I will talk as if I am talking directly to the parts of the mind.

I then set-up some method that the subconscious mind may communicate with me. This could be with the hands resting on the legs, that the index finger of the left hand can lift from the leg for a “YES“, and the index finger of the right hand can lift for a “NO“.

Now that I have established communication with the subconscious mind, and the conscious mind is engaged with good memories, I can begin work.

Firstly I thank the subconscious mind for all that it has done for the client, and all it will be doing in the future, and ask if it has any objection in communicating with me. I wait until I receive an answer, which may or may not be via the finger signals.

As long as I have a signal, the client is communicating with me, which is catch 22.

“*” I ask that the subconscious mind now goes away and find three (3) new alternative ways, which will be positive and beneficial to replace the old way, habit or unwanted behaviour, and to give me a signal when those three new ways have been found.

Wait.

Once I have a signal that three new ways have been found, I then ask the subconscious mind to “take the best of those three ways, and to try it out“, and give a signal when that has been done.

Wait.

Once I have a signal, I ask “are there any objections in doing this new method?“

If there is any objection, I will return to asking the subconscious mind to find a way around that objection, and will loop around to “*” above, until I get a signal that there are no objections. In practice, it is very rare to get objections.

Upon receiving a no objection signal, I then ask the subconscious mind if it will carry out the new method for :-

“three days, three weeks, three months, and for the rest of their life“

and wait for a positive response.

As an added bonus to the client, I ask the subconscious mind if it will “give them something positive for them in the next twenty-four hours to show that this has worked“.

Wait for an appropriate signal.

I then speak to the subconscious mind, and thank it for all it has done and will be doing in the future, and ask to have back the conscious mind.

At this point, the Six Step Reframe concludes, but I like to add-on another step.

This additional step is to get the client to imagine themselves as a super hero, and to see themselves doing the new thing that they want in the new positive and beneficial way, being a future pace.

I hope that this explanation will help those who are interested in the Six Step Reframe and that now there has some structure to it.

NLP Presentations

BAŞARISIZLIK DİYE BİR ŞEY YOK

Post author By nlpnowcom
Post date 29/05/2008

Wow.

How much information is out there about us that we do not know about?

Yet another site. This time GAZIANTEP 27 GAZETESI .

“BAŞARISIZLIK DİYE BİR ŞEY YOK”



Dünyaca ünlü NLP duayeni Phillip Holt, başarısızlık diye bir şey olmadığını, sadece geri bildirimin olduğunu söyledi. GAGİAD’ın daveti üzerine Gaziantep’e gelen Holt, ?Etrafınızdaki insanlara nasıl geri bildirimlerde bulunduğunuz çok önemli. Karşıdan alacağımız tüm tepkiler ya da elde ettiğimiz sonuçlar bizim için geri bildirim yani feedback tir” dedi. Her insanın başarılı olmak isteyeceğine dikkat çeken Holt, ?Ve başarılı insanların gösterdikleri performansları üzerinde yoğunlaştığımızda, nedenlerini sorguladığımızda ve bunu farklı insanlara uyarlamayı başardığımızda NLP?nin özünü benimsemiş oluruz” diye konuştu. GAGİAD Yönetim Kurulu Başkanı Yaşar Erturhan, toplantıda yaptığı konuşmada NLP konusunun önemine vurgu yaparak, ?İş yaşamında ve günlük yaşamımızda beşeri ilişkiler alanında iletişim gelişmiş modern toplumların en önemli temel dayanağıdır. İş yaşamında kurumsallaşma ve kurumsal iletişim, günlük yaşamımızda bireysel gelişim ve kişisel iletişim günümüz dünyasında çok önemli bir yere sahiptir. Ve tüm bu alanlarda NLP son yıllarda bir sosyal-psikoloji tekniği olarak karşımıza çıkmaktadır” dedi.

NLP Presentations

A Turkish Article on the Gaziantep Telgraf web site

Post author By nlpnowcom
Post date 29/05/2008

Today whilst checking on the web for information, I came across an article on the Telgraf web site in Turkey, reporting on a talk I gave in Gaziantep to the GAGIAD Businessman’s Association. (click to read blog).

I hope it reads well, and tells good things about me.

GAGİAD, NLP uzmanı Phillip Holt’u ağırladı

Gaziantep Genç İşadamları Derneği (GAGİAD), dünyaca ünlü NLP duayeni Phillip Holt’un katılımıyla bir toplantı düzenledi.

GAPGİAD toplantı salonunda düzenlenen ve GAP Yönetim Danışmanlık Yöneticisi Mehpare Şayan Kileci’nin çevirmenliğinde gerçekleşen toplantıya GAGİAD üyelerinin yanı sıra Gaziantep’teki birçok yerel firmanın üst düzey yöneticileri de katıldı.
GAGİAD Yönetim Kurulu Başkanı Yaşar Erturhan, toplantıda yaptığı konuşmada, NLP konusunun önemine vurgu yaparak, “İş yaşamında ve günlük yaşamımızda beşeri ilişkiler alanında iletişim, modern toplumların temel dayanağıdır. İş yaşamında kurumsallaşma ve kurumsal iletişim, günlük yaşamımızda bireysel gelişim ve kişisel iletişim, günümüz dünyasında çok önemli bir yere sahiptir. NLP ise tüm bu alanlarda son yıllarda bir sosyal-psikoloji tekniği olarak karşımıza çıkmaktadır.Küresel rekabetin arttığı günümüz
dünyasında kurumların ve kişilerin fark oluşturabilmeleri için NLP gibi tekniklerden yararlanmalarının son derece yararı olacaktır” dedi.
Yaşamında değişiklik, farklılık isteyen kişinin bunu ancak içinde var olan gücü fark edip kendini değiştirmesiyle başarabileceği düşüncesine dayanan NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) tekniğinin kişisel gelişime büyük katkılar sağladığını ifade eden dünyaca ünlü NLP duayeni Phillip Holt ise bu teknikle panik atak rahatsızlığı ve uçak korkusu gibi birçok fobinin üstesinden gelinebileceğini söyledi.
NLP’de görsel, işitsel, kinestetik olmak üzere 3 farklı çapalama tekniğinin olduğunu anlatan Holt, NLP’nin bir parçasının da bu çapaları insanlara öğretme yöntemiyle ilgili olduğunu söyledi. Phillip Holt, “Eğer bir insan bir şeyi başarabiliyorsa bunu herkes yapabilir. Başarısızlık diye bir şey yoktur, sadece geri bildirim vardır. Etrafınızdaki insanlara nasıl geri bildirimlerde bulunduğunuz çok önemli. Karşıdan alacağımız tüm tepkiler ya da elde ettiğimiz sonuçlar bizim için geri bildirim, yani
‘feedback’tir. Her insan başarılı olmak ister. Başarılı insanların gösterdikleri performanslar üzerinde yoğunlaştığımızda, nedenlerini sorguladığımızda ve bunu farklı insanlara uyarlamayı başardığımızda NLP’nin özünü benimsemiş oluruz” dedi.

Exercises Hypnosis Memory NLP PhotoReading Stage Hypnosis

Manuals and Scripts

Post author By nlpnowcom
Post date 28/05/2008

In my courses, be they an NLP Practitioner or Master Practitioner, PhotoReading, Mind Maps, Memory or any of my courses, it is rare that I give handouts or manuals, as I wish to teach the participants implicitly, that is that they know how to do what I am training by doing, by physically doing the exercises and what I teach.

I do not give out scripts say for the hypnosis, as I want participants to be themselves, to react to their clients and use the appropriate inductions and words that fit the moment.

Too often I have seen and heard hypnotists using scripts verbatim, even “hypnotists” who have the script written down and laminated, reading directly from something that was written maybe fifty years ago by someone else.

They fail to be responsive to the clients needs, give feedback to what is happening to the client, what is happening in the environment.

Yes there is a structure to what I teach, in the process, in how one element of the course leads, links into and is associated with other elements.

I remember one course in particular, where a participant had a list of everything, every element that they thought I should be covering in my training. As I taught the elements, the participant would cross it off their list. At breaks, this participant would say to the other members of the course :-

“Oh, Phillip has now covered this on my list, but he has not done that.”

It took me a while to understand why I was being asked if I would be covering this or that, when in fact I had. This person had obtained “their training content list” from another training provider coming from another licensing organisation, which provided a very much condensed course, giving a manual for participants to read at home.

They failed to realise that this other organisation’s structure of training was different to mine, and that the “content names” had been changed to make their course seem original and unique to them.

It was when I obtained “their training content list,” and went through what we had covered already, that the rest of course participants realised that they had been taught more than the so called list had written down.

And so it is with scripts and manuals. People can rely too much on them. They should be used as a guide only, and the speaker or provider to be themselves, not someone else who wrote a script fifty years ago.

I recently attended a training where the participants were asked to read from a script as they worked on exercises with fellow trainees.

Oh how wooden and false the language used was.

Oh how much information or feedback that the “client” was giving was missed, because the giver, the reader had their face buried in the script.

Lastly, how many manuals or scripts are ever looked at again after a course or training? Mostly they are left under the bed.

I do give out manuals when appropriate along with sample scripts, for example within the stage hypnosis course, PhotoReading etc., but for reference only.

I train my participants how to do what I am teaching from their heart, by actually trying out what I am teaching in the course, learning by doing.

But for those that want an out-line script, I will be publishing them soon. Return here to my blog for more information or subscribe to the blog on the left, for regular updates.

Hypnosis Memory Mind Maps NLP PhotoReading Recommendation

News in the Trade Arabia – Middle East business information

Post author By nlpnowcom
Post date 28/05/2008

My visit to Bahrain resulted in a number of press releases, news paper articles, and visiting newspaper photographers.

One release came from the Trade Arabia – Middle East business information web site.

Click here to see the article.

Expert tips to polish learning skills
Manama: Wed, 14 May 2008

Internationally acclaimed trainer Phillip Holt is returning to Bahrain for 10 days of dynamic and enjoyable accelerated ‘superlearning’.

Phillip is a Master and Trainer in NeuroLinguistic Programming (NLP), PhotoReading and MindMapping, accredited by the Society for NLP, Tony Buzan and Paul Scheele, the originators of these powerful tools for boosting brain power.

He works with World Memory Champions and regularly appears on television and in the media and is sought after as a trainer across the world, running courses in his native UK, where he is director of NLP.

Phillip previously visited Bahrain in February when his first PhotoReading course was sold out in advance and received extremely positive feedback from all of the 31 participants, who included a variety of business people, doctors, professionals and students.

“The course was excellent” said Dr Jinan Darwish, a paediatrician. “Well organised and well-presented and executed.”

“Phillip is an excellent trainer,” agreed Dawiya Nassir, a policy adviser. “It was very interesting. He really inspired us and made us believe that we can do it!”

A teacher who attended the course said “I learned a lot from Mr Phillip Holt, not just PhotoReading. His course gave me the motivation to start a new degree soon and I will be able to read as many books as I need.”

Student Katerina Al Qarainees said that the course was very enjoyable and beneficial.

“I can now learn not to cram a whole load of work before an exam but Photoread that book and extract relevant information in the exam.”

Another student, Nevin Isaac Mathew said: “I really loved this course!”

Translator, Nadia Kazim, described the course as “Amazing… the first credit goes to our lovely instructor. I am sure it is going to add a radical change to my life.”

“I’m really not exaggerating if I say that this course doesn’t have any weak or boring aspects,” she said.

The course teaches innovative ways to read faster and with better recall and concentration and is certified by Paul Scheele, founder of PhotoReading and Director of Learning Strategies Corporation, the US, who originated this highly acclaimed ‘whole mind’ system that teaches how to:

PhotoRead the printed page at rates exceeding a page per second; Accelerate learning by reading in ways that are flexible, active and purposeful; Tap the reserve capabilities of the non-conscious mind; Integrate information for personal and professional benefits using ‘activation’ techniques, such as rapid reading and MindMapping.

The two-and-a-half day PhotoReading course will be held on Thursday (May 15) from 4.30-9pm and on Friday and Saturday, from 9 – 6 each day at the Elite Suites Hotel in Sanabis. It will be followed by a two-day intensive Memory Power and MindMapping course at the same venue on Monday and Tuesday, from 9-6 daily.

Holt will be teaching a two-part course for children aged 7-14. Superlearning for Kids starts on May 18 and has already sold out and has a waiting list for the next course.

Children will learn how to maximise their potential and creativity with accelerated learning, memory and reading skills using techniques developed by the genius of the world’s leading exponents of mind power.

Phillip Holt works with best-selling author ‘Mr Memory’ Tony Buzan, the originator of MindMapping and author of numerous best-selling books on memory and learning, and with Gianni Golfera, who has been described as “the man with the biggest memory in the world”.
– TradeArabia News Service

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I would like to thank all the participants and organisers for their help and input allowing me to train in Bahrain, and look forward to meeting you all again soon.

NLP

6 (Six) Step Reframe

Post author By nlpnowcom
Post date 27/05/2008

Many problems or behaviours people have are being controlled at a subconscious level. We are not aware of processes of the brain, the mind, what it is going through, or the reason why we are doing what we are doing, it just happens.

The behaviour seems to be out of control of the conscious mind, no matter how hard you try to change the behaviour, the behaviour continues as your unconscious has control.

We have two minds, the subconscious and the conscious mind. Where they are, I do not know, but we know they are there. We talk to ourselves and are aware of our feelings, thoughts, the smells and tastes and the environment around us with the conscious mind, yet working away in the background is the subconscious mind, the automatic mind, the mind we are unaware of.

This subconscious mind is non questioning, black and white, takes things literally, unlike the conscious mind that questions, reasons if this is right or this is wrong, the mind that criticises, the critical mind.

It is believed that the subconscious is getting a secondary gain from creating an unwanted behaviour. Perhaps a client is crying all the time. Is there a secondary gain to get attention from others?

By removing the secondary gain people often say that they will have to substitute another secondary gain, for example, :-

“if I give up smoking, I will put weight on, because it is said I will have to replace cigarettes with sweets.”

It has never been proven that giving-up cigarettes means people take-up eating sweets. If you believe that by removing one behaviour, then another will be put in its’ place, then think of something better to be the replacement behaviour, more sport, take-up a new hobby, etc.

Using the Six-Step Reframe (read the process) of NLP, enables you to find a positive intention that is more ecological, to give a better gain.

Because the Six-Step Reframe is working at the subconscious level, it is not necessary for the conscious mind to know what the new way is, the new process, what the new behaviour is. So be aware that change will happen.

The basic structure of the Six-Step Reframe is given here, but by using the Eyes Closed Process, hypnosis, and the imagination, results I have found are far stronger.

THE SIX STEPS

1. Identify the problem. What is the problem or behaviour you wish to change? To give-up smoking, stop biting the nails, procrastinating, etc.

2. Establish a connection or communication with the unconscious mind that is responsible for the behaviour. Gain a signal from the unconscious mind, (in NLP it is referred as the or a part), that you will be aware of, which will be one of the modalities (V,A,K,o,g), at a conscious level, it could be a thought like “YES”, a certain feeling.

3. What is the intention of the unconscious mind (part). We assume that each and every action at a subconscious level has a positive intention, so what is the positive intention of the behaviour, what is it trying to do? Separate it from the behaviour, so “Smoking” is the behaviour, the positive intention could be to “Relax”.

4. Ask the subconscious to find new ways to give or fulfill that positive intention. Everyone can be creative or has a creative part of them, ask the subconscious to find at least three new ways, that are more positive and beneficial than the old ways, noticing any signals given by step 2. when found. Often the conscious mind is unaware of what those three or more new positive and beneficial ways are.

5. Ask the subconscious mind, the part at step 3. that it will use one of the new ways in the future. Notice the feedback or signal given which was established in step 2.

6. Future pace or conduct an ecology check. Imagine yourself, or in NLP terms future pace, doing this new behaviour in the future. Do you feel OK, is it correct for you, have you any objections? If yes, then go back to step 4. to find a new way to fulfill the intention, and keep doing this loop until all objections have been removed.

Secondary gains can be replaced by the Six-Step Reframe, so that new behaviours can be generated. This process can be difficult to undertake by ones self, so it is better to get someone else to talk you through the process, and as previously mentioned, it is better run whilst in a relaxed, hypnotic state.

READ THE PROCESS OF THE SIX STEP REFRAME. (click here)