We all experiences aches and pains, and I am no different.
I had the normal childhood illnesses, chickenpox, measles, even glandular fever that kept me of work at 18 years old for many weeks, and I found it a great way to loose weight, even if I had no control over the loss.
I had asthma attacks as a child of about 7 years old, not many as my memory recalls, but enough for my school and probably the medical opinion of the day, stopped me partaking in sports. At the age of 16 years old I started having migraines, which would literally knock me out for two days, with disrupted vision, disorientation and excruciating pain.
I learned to overcome all the above illnesses, taking-up sports, defying what was to be proved wrong advice, working to rid the migraines or control them, only having the odd one or two from say the age of 21.
It was whilst I was working in Saudi Arabia, where I looked after myself well, cooking great food, mostly steaks, beef and chicken that I started getting chest pains, especially at night. I knew it was indigestion, as if I had some milk or a Renie (indigestion tablet), the pain would go, plus I tended to get acid reflux, what appeared to be stomach acid entering the throat.
I went and got all the tests and my heart was fine, my chest was fine. There was nothing wrong with me.
On a frequent business trip back to the UK, I stayed in a hotel next to Heathrow airport, ready to take the early morning flight back to Jeddah in Saudi Arabia. I had a friend staying with me, and we enjoyed a final fantastic steak meal together. That night I awoke to the familiar chest pains.
It was at that time I had the eureka enlightenment, I realised what was causing my pains.
Beef.
Yes, if I eat too much beef, I get the pains. My body does not like beef.
On returning to Saudi Arabia, I undertook my own experimentation, eating a wonderful large steak, only to experience the pains.
I started to monitor my body, looking for signals, discomforts, mood changes, and noticed my body did not like or could not tolerate peppers or capsicums, not the chili or paprika type, but the big ones. Even with the food being cooked in the peppers would make my body produce acid.
Then I wondered why I felt so light headed, so strange, my mind not functioning well at the weekends, (Thursday and Friday in Saudi Arabia), and realised I was drinking gallons or litres of instant coffee, much, much more than whilst I was at work. Again experimentation on my part, proved to me that coffee was not good for me.
I had already stopped smoking, realising the damage I was doing to myself, so I eliminated beef, peppers and coffee from my diet, even though I loved them.
If I am presented with the food, say at a dinner party, I do not make a fuss, I will consume them, and I will when in Turkey occasionally have a Turkish coffee after a meal.
I have learned to notice certain signs, look for feedback from my actions.
When working with people, I am constantly looking, listening for, noticing my feelings for feedback.
Do they understand me?
Are they going in the direction I want the to go?
Are they going in the direction they want to go?
Are they interested?
How are they processing the information internally in their own mind?
Are they visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory, or gustatory (click to see Eye Accessing Cues) processing people? What is happening to them as they go on their Transderivational Search for understanding and information.
Not only do I notice the feedback I getting from others I am in communication with, but I also monitor the feedback I am giving them.
Is it appropriate feedback?
Am I letting them know I understand?
Am I showing them that I am listening to them?
By learning to recognise what feedback is happening or being given, we can make appropriate adjustments to the way we communicate with ourselves and the world.
But, we have to constantly check, if it is the appropriate feedback. More on that to follow.
I had the normal childhood illnesses, chickenpox, measles, even glandular fever that kept me of work at 18 years old for many weeks, and I found it a great way to loose weight, even if I had no control over the loss.
I had asthma attacks as a child of about 7 years old, not many as my memory recalls, but enough for my school and probably the medical opinion of the day, stopped me partaking in sports. At the age of 16 years old I started having migraines, which would literally knock me out for two days, with disrupted vision, disorientation and excruciating pain.
I learned to overcome all the above illnesses, taking-up sports, defying what was to be proved wrong advice, working to rid the migraines or control them, only having the odd one or two from say the age of 21.
It was whilst I was working in Saudi Arabia, where I looked after myself well, cooking great food, mostly steaks, beef and chicken that I started getting chest pains, especially at night. I knew it was indigestion, as if I had some milk or a Renie (indigestion tablet), the pain would go, plus I tended to get acid reflux, what appeared to be stomach acid entering the throat.
I went and got all the tests and my heart was fine, my chest was fine. There was nothing wrong with me.
On a frequent business trip back to the UK, I stayed in a hotel next to Heathrow airport, ready to take the early morning flight back to Jeddah in Saudi Arabia. I had a friend staying with me, and we enjoyed a final fantastic steak meal together. That night I awoke to the familiar chest pains.
It was at that time I had the eureka enlightenment, I realised what was causing my pains.
Beef.
Yes, if I eat too much beef, I get the pains. My body does not like beef.
On returning to Saudi Arabia, I undertook my own experimentation, eating a wonderful large steak, only to experience the pains.
I started to monitor my body, looking for signals, discomforts, mood changes, and noticed my body did not like or could not tolerate peppers or capsicums, not the chili or paprika type, but the big ones. Even with the food being cooked in the peppers would make my body produce acid.
Then I wondered why I felt so light headed, so strange, my mind not functioning well at the weekends, (Thursday and Friday in Saudi Arabia), and realised I was drinking gallons or litres of instant coffee, much, much more than whilst I was at work. Again experimentation on my part, proved to me that coffee was not good for me.
I had already stopped smoking, realising the damage I was doing to myself, so I eliminated beef, peppers and coffee from my diet, even though I loved them.
If I am presented with the food, say at a dinner party, I do not make a fuss, I will consume them, and I will when in Turkey occasionally have a Turkish coffee after a meal.
I have learned to notice certain signs, look for feedback from my actions.
When working with people, I am constantly looking, listening for, noticing my feelings for feedback.
Do they understand me?
Are they going in the direction I want the to go?
Are they going in the direction they want to go?
Are they interested?
How are they processing the information internally in their own mind?
Are they visual, auditory, kinesthetic, olfactory, or gustatory (click to see Eye Accessing Cues) processing people? What is happening to them as they go on their Transderivational Search for understanding and information.
Not only do I notice the feedback I getting from others I am in communication with, but I also monitor the feedback I am giving them.
Is it appropriate feedback?
Am I letting them know I understand?
Am I showing them that I am listening to them?
By learning to recognise what feedback is happening or being given, we can make appropriate adjustments to the way we communicate with ourselves and the world.
But, we have to constantly check, if it is the appropriate feedback. More on that to follow.
NLP handshake interrupt).