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The cost of a telephone call

Traveling as much as I do to different parts of the world, means staying in communication is and has been extremely difficult and costly.

My good friend, Bill Robertson, once said that he had a telephone book just for me, as I was forever having a new contact telephone number.

Not only that, his first words to me would be, “Where are you today?”  Poor Bill never knew where I was.

Regarding my telephone numbers, yes I moved about from home to home as employment and circumstances changed. With a land line telephone, that meant a new telephone number.

With the advent of the mobile telephone, allowing us to be mobile in our daily life, our home location telephone system soon became irrelevant. It is more and more common these days for people not to have a fixed land line telephone, relying solely on mobile phones.

Problem solved for Bill, all he had to do is remember my mobile phone number. (+44) 07973178602.

Problem for me was that if I was in a country other than the UK, when receiving Bill’s calls, I would pay a fortune, an add-on international phone charge just to receive his call.

Now, I do not mind paying that extra to speak to Bill, but I do object to paying for “cold sales” calls, wanting to sell me a new mobile phone, an insurance policy, advertising space, to sell our timeshare or replacement windows.

My first solution to this problem was to obtain a sim card, a mobile number for the country I am visiting, that I can insert into a spare phone I carry around with me.

Problem solved, poor old Bill  will have more numbers for me to remember or write in his little black book, plus he would have to pay the international call charge for the privilege of speaking to me. Plus I would have to spend a fortune telling people of my foreign telephone number.

But this is a problem for me, as I do not want a contract with a foreign (non UK) phone company, paying a monthly fee, and a “Pay-as-you-go” service is OK, but if the number is not used for say three months, you loose the number and any credits I may have.

Then came VoIP, a revolution in communication, using the internet to make telephone calls. This system was all well for technical minded people, who could get their heads around SIP codes and numbers, proxy servers, RTD port. etc. Not very intuitive or easy to use for the general public, and special equipment was required.

As usual, it was someone who knew the KISS acronym, a seemingly simple piece of software that was easy to use and install on a computer, enabling users to talk computer to computer free of charge. MSN messaging, Skype and Gizmo to name just a few.

But these systems required the users to have their computers on and attached to the internet.

As more and more users embraced or took-up the VoIP systems, so manufacturers developed and enhanced such services as Skype. Providing hardware such as the DualPhone 3088, the SMC WiFi phone, which does not require a computer to be switched on, just an internet connection, wired or WiFi. In the UK one mobile service provider (3 Mobile) sells a mobile phone with Skype already installed.

But these VoIP systems, Skype, still require the vast majority of users if they want free calls to have a computer connection to make a call, plus special hardware, headsets, microphones, etc to make a call. The vast majority of people still use normal land line handsets or mobile phones to make calls.

But I have come-up with a system that enables people to keep in contact with me, my business, to keep in contact with my friends in the UK at a cheap rate.

Skype allows subscribers to get a telephone number (SkypeIn) which is a standard UK London number 020 8816 7962 (different countries and regions are also available), and when dialed, will that call be diverted to the Skype account on a internet computer or the DualPhone 3088, no matter where I am, or the Skype user, located in the world. The person dialing the “standard” land line number is unaware that it is an internet number, and is only paying the cost of a standard phone call.

What I have now done is to redirect my UK mobile phone number, 07973178602, to the SkypeIn number, 020 8816 7962, so I pay a small charge, now the call is sent to my Skype account, and if I am sitting next to my DualPhone 3088 here in Malaysia, it will ring, and I will answer it.

If I am not available, and cannot answer the DualPhone 3088, say I am out shopping, visiting or working, Skype will divert the call to my Malaysian mobile phone +6 0174491308, myself paying a small fee (Skype international call) for the privilege.

The next country I land in, perhaps Sri Lanka or Turkey, I get a mobile or use “local” sim card number, redirect Skype to that telephone number, and “Bob’s your uncle“, I have an easy to use and cheap communication system, always in contact.

Now I have another problem, people still want to telephone me from the UK at 6pm in the evening, when I am fast asleep. How can I educate them?

I will just have to switch off the phones, and allow my Skype account to take an answerphone message.

I hope you understand. At least it passed away a couple of hours writing the blog.


  Call me! on Gizmo.

Skype Me™!on Skype

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Travels

A tour hour tour of Singapore

Tired, as I had little sleep on the Singapore Airlines A380, I joined about twenty other transit passengers at Singapore Changi International Airport for a free two coach tour. What a wonderful gift Singapore Airlines, the Airport Aurthority and the Tourist Board gives to passengers.
 
On one large island plus a few of the smaller surrounding islands on the southern tip of Malaysia, Singapore is approximately 42 kilometers by 23 kilometers, yet has a population of just over 5 million people, made-up of 70% Chinese, and the rest Indian and Malays. So most of the housing is high rise flats, both Government and private. Offices too reach for the sky.


            
High rise buildings is the only way Singapore can build.

Building are being constructed everywhere, but it was a joy to hear the tour guide say that they are actively preserving the culture and history of the old Singapore. From temples, Chinese or Indian, mosques, or churches, shop-houses to old colonial buildings.


        

All religions are accepted from temples, Chinese or Indian, mosques, or churches

        
Old shophouses are preserved

We even went under the footbridge which I mention in my stories I tell in my courses. You know, try it you might like it”.



try it you might like it

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Hypnosis Travels

Missing days

Over the last month I have been very busy, traveling, giving training, getting trained, working and trying to relax.

Thank you for all your messages, asking if I was still about, what was happening to me.

It has been a strange time. It has had its’ ups and downs. But during these last few weeks I must admit that I have not been one hundred percent. A very strange situation.

Perhaps my experiences may help others in a similar state or situation.

A couple of years ago in Southern Turkey I was asked to do a scuba dive, (visit http://www.nlpnow.net/scuba.htm to see some of my diving pictures ) which much to my embarrassment, did not go well. This resulted in taking myself to the doctors in the UK for a medical check. See More on noticing Feedback – continued

I had certain symptoms, aches in my neck and jaw on occasions, excessive sweating, light headed, but I had dismissed these as being over weight, lack of exercise, and being unfit.

My doctors smelt a rat, (I will explain in another blog the meaning), and sent me for many tests, which led to them discovering a problem with the old heart, resulting with a stent being inserted, a coronary angioplasty.

I was told that I would have to take tablets to control blood pressure, the viscosity or thickness of the blood, the heart beat and my cholesterol levels. I would have to modify my diet and exercise regime. I would need to change my way of life.

These tablets were Asprin, Clopidogrel, Bendroflumethiazide, Simvastatin and Atenolol.

At the outset my blood was so thin that when I bled from a small cut, it would not clot, it would not heal for a long time. At one time in Turkey I had an ear bleed in the middle of the night which would not stop for a long time. When it did, the resultant clot of blood produced a plug in the ear which I could not remove, and it took a lot of insistence on my part to get specialised medical help to get it out, some six months plus later.

I stopped taking the Clopidogrel after one year which meant that my blood was allowed to thicken up.

My problems did not stop my work. I put more effort into my presentations, my trainings and just got on with life.

But, as I teach in my courses, the brain is just a piece of meat, run by electricity and chemicals, get the levels or the combinations wrong, and we are in trouble.

The drugs above I am taking are taking a toll on the functionality, the working of my brain.

My personality has changed I am sure. My ability to stay calm has been reduced, my memory ability has changed.

I know of these changes. I do not like them, and I can tell when these changes are happening, but I have the ability to make compensations, to make myself calm, not to loose my coolness, to find new ways to enhance the memory.

Some months ago I had a problem with my eyes, maybe resulting from the drugs, see The most precious thing in life, sight , and I had to seek emergancy hospital assistance. So, with the input from knowing what had happened from the medical practitioners, I had to find a way around that problem, so much so that it has put itself right, as was acknowledged in a hospital check-up visit two days ago.

But, on a recent visit to the doctors to renew the drug prescription above, the doctor asked me questions which resulted in him increasing the doze of Atenolol. Twice the amount.

It was not long before I realised how much the increase in the drug was having on my body and brain.

Measuring my heart beat now, it is 48 beats per minute, a normal male should be 74 bpm. I have slowed down. No wonder I have to push myself so much.

But the worse thing is my memory. My short term memory has gone wild, sometimes I can remember and sometimes I cannot, not even what I have just spocken about or done. It is very strange, and I know it is happening. I have had to find a way to compensate for it, to find a strategy to place short term memory in my consciousness. And, I have a strategy, I can cope.

Talking to medical professionals, these symptoms can be experienced by people taking Atenolol, many patients refusing to take the drug. So under advice of my doctor I will reduce the strength of Atenolol.

So if you know of someone dear to you, a work colleague or you yourself taking a drug, especially Atenolol, please be aware of the effects it can have on the functionality of the brain, the memory.

Now where did I put my shoes? I have to go for a walk, my daily exercise.

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NLP Travels

The Journey


To day I start another leg of what should be a three month tour, giving training in a number of countries, UK, Turkey, Italy and Bahrain.


Where and when I will be at any time, I just do not know, as due to no fault of my own, plans change. Three of my courses were canceled by the organisers in Istanbul, with little notice, leaving me with a travel plan of flights, paid for and confirmed, to be in a city and country with nothing to do, where no-body loves me, not earning money, instead costing me money.


Like a road, starting from a given place, we start a journey, planing to reach a destination.


In the UK, some major roads are given the prefix ‘A’, will start in London, developed centuries ago, probably by the Romans, ending in towns and cities which would have important communication and strategic importance. The ‘A1’ London to Edinborough, ‘A2’ London to Dover, ‘A3’ London to Portsmouth, ‘A4’ London to Bath, ‘A5’ London to Holyhead. They all have an end


As we plan our journey, we may look at a map, picking out the places we must pass, the towns, the junctions of other roads, which will tell us if we are on track, and how our journey is going. From this information, we will estimate how long the journey will take as a whole, and as we progress, we will be able to know if will make the timetable.


We may arrange to meet friends, colleagues, contacts on our journey, and give specific dates and times for these meetings, hoping that we are not delayed and that the others will turn-up. How frustrating it is to plan a journey only to find at the last minute that these people have canceled for a multitude of reasons, some genuine, some just an excuse.


As we progress the journey, we may find that there are road works, the road is being repaired or changed. These may slow down our journey, and often as we pass the road works, all we see are the barriers that have been put up, but no people working there.


Sometimes due to an accident, major road construction, we are diverted via another route. Sometimes these diversions are well sign posted, making our journey a little longer, but easy. Sometimes the diversions are not there, or have been removed, leaving us to find our own way, floundering, wondering around in a mist of confusion.


Often as we continue, forever aiming to get to our destination, we see and meet people who may be trying to get to the same place, or a place on or near the route we are taking. We may feel it is right to give these people a lift, help them on their journey, after all, it can be companionship, friendship, business. Often, these people take us off our route, take a diversion, from the journey we had planned to take. Perhaps they are wanting to go to the seaside for a holiday, to seek new business, a new life, to attend a meeting themselves.


Often have we given such a person a lift, we have been invited to become part of their dreams, to become part of their life, business, they tell us that they will keep in contact, telephone, communicate, yet like dreams they rarely come true, they are forgotten when they reach their destination, and we come back to our own journey, reality. Yet we had spent time and perhaps money in being with these people. It is good to know that we have helped others reach their goal.


No matter how much we plan, things can go wrong, we have breakdowns, and we may have to seek help, or repair the faults ourselves, either temporary or long lasting. There will always be a way to solve our problems. If we can solve the problem ourselves, we can often save a fortune, as people will often take advantage of our temporary breakdowns. But sometimes we are lucky to find a good person who for no gain to themselves, help us through the hours of need.


We are and should be continually adjusting our route on the journey, our timings, our plans, to be adjustable, but how many of us are just too busy to allocate time for these diversions, breakdowns?


How many of us allow time to notice the places of interest on our journey, let alone allow time to visit them?


There are so many places of interest on a journey, the majority not marked on the map we made our plan from (visit The Map is not the Territory). We need to keep our eyes open, to use ‘Phillip’s Sausage’, Win Wenger’s ‘Sidebands’, to notice the unusual, the things we are not usually aware of.


Perhaps visiting the places of interest will enrich our life and knowledge, even if the information has no relevance to our present journey, it may seal a previous outstanding issue, or prepare us for something in the future.


How many of us decide to take the easy route, keep to the ‘A’ roads, take no diversions?


How many of us expect others to drive us to our destination, letting them take the risks, frustrations, heartaches?


Sometimes we have to allow others to help us, like we would for them.


A journey can be so much more fun, exciting and enlightening if we take the ‘B’ roads sometimes, the minor roads, see and experience things from a different perspective.


No matter what happens, a journey will end. Some roads have a beginning and an end. Some roads short, just a street, some roads are long covering many miles or kilometers, towns, cities, countries, continents, allowing us experience and learn so much.


Some roads have no beginnings or endings, the ring roads, the major motorway around London for example, the M25, they are a continuous circle. If we stay on these roads we will see or learn nothing new. We must have a plan, know which exit to take, be willing to get off, and change our route.

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I am jealous

I am jealous.

I have just finished a nine and a half day training session here in Istanbul, Turkey, from 9am in the morning to 6pm in the evening. As usual, by the time I have finished the days training, I am tired, and just want to put my feet up in my hotel room, review the training I have given during the day, and prepare for the next day, as to what I need to include, how I can help individual participants, and then go and get something to eat.
 
The region I stay in is the major tourist area of Istanbul near Taxim Square, and it appears I am the only long stay guest. Perhaps because of the amount of time I am here, I should look for an apartment for myself, does anyone know of somewhere?

One of the best times of the day for me is breakfast. It is when my mind is fresh from a nights sleep, I have got rid of any of the bad thoughts and ideas in my dreams, I have had my subconscious mind working on the problems of life during my sleep, I can see things more clearly and it is a time for reflection.

Sitting in the Seminal Hotel, eating my small breakfast, I watch the other guests enter the breakfast room, families, groups, rarely single guests, take their table and help themselves to copious amounts of food.

How can they eat so much and some of the them so thin? I am jealous.

I watch as they talk to each other, laughing, smiling, talking, conversing. I am jealous.

I hear the many languages spoken, Arabic, French, German, Greek and Turkish. Why can’t I talk their tongue as my translator can? I am jealous.

I wonder what they will be doing today, Sightseeing? I am jealous.

In the evening, I walk up to Taxim Square and down to Tunel along the car free street of shops, and see friends walking and talking, lovers holding hands, tourists taking photographs. I am jealous.

Looking into restaurants and eating houses, with hunger eating at my stomach, watching diners chatting away. I am jealous.

I get back to my room alone, and hear people in the next room talking. I am jealous.

Then I hear a argument start in a language I cannot understand, shouting and banging of doors.

Now I understand why I should not be jealous, I am safe in my little room, no arguments, and I can telephone friends and family who I know will want to talk to me.

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Happy Bayramlar

Happy Bayramlar to all my Turkish readers.

Today is a holiday in Turkey, the end of Ramadan when sweets are eaten to celebrate the end of the fast.

It is also known as Seker Bayrami.

So I am sitting here waiting for the participants arrive late for the NLP Practitioner course here in Istanbul, as we start late so that they can celebrate the Bayram with their families.

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The shippers arrive

Today the shippers arrived to pack and ship household goods to Malaysia.

They say there are times in life which are highly stressful. Moving jobs, marriage, divorce, loosing a loved one, death and moving home.

I am highly stressed.

Friday coming I start a training tour, giving courses in Turkey, Bahrain, Italy, which will last until Christmas.

The following Monday Mee Len will leave Norbiton Hall, Kingston upon Thames, the UK to the home in Bukit Mertajam, Malaysia

I am calling upon my friends, Fred, Antonio, Mustapha to pull me through.

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NLP Travels

Change, Change Change

Life seems to be in a never-ending flux. Life changes all the time, no matter how much you can plan for the future, it seems never to go to plan.

That is one thing I like about my job. I never know what is around the corner, as I adapt the content of my courses to fit the situation, change travel arrangements if perhaps there are delays, change dates of courses, presentations or working with clients on a 1-2-1 basis.

I am kept on my toes.

Other changes happen as people come and go into my work.

Every course I give there are new faces, new characters, new personalities. Even those participants who return to progress with me to higher levels of learning have changed. And so it should be.

Over the last couple of weeks, I have been in conversation with some of my translators that have helped me deliver my courses.

The environment in the courses means we have a close working relationship, built on trust and understanding. The work of translating me is quite demanding due to the language patterns I use, the structure of my English is different to normal day-to-day conversational language, there is a purpose in what I say and how I say it.

The translator should know this structure, understand it, and then recreate it into their own language, Turkish, Italian, Chinese, Arabic, etc.

I have to know that they are doing this by calibrating with them, knowing that they are relaxed and happy, calibrating with the participants, knowing that they are getting my message, even at a subconscious level.

So this relationship with the translators takes time to build, the trust both ways, the understanding.

I have had some fantastic translators, and still do have. Deniz Merdizan will be with me in Turkey from the 27th September. Visit the web site of NLP-Time for dates. (2010, I no longer work with NLP-Time)

Deniz Merdizan
Deniz Merdizan

But as life changes so do my translators who leave me to find pastures new. Full time work.

Zümrüt Demirel now works for a major telecommunications company.

Zümrüt Demirel
Zümrüt Demirel

Arzu Ozen who had been with me for a number of years translating in Turkey, now travels the world as a full time translator.


Arzu Ozen

Today I hear from Aylin Mutlu who starts a full time appointment in Ankara as a translator and assistant on Monday next.


Aylin Mutlu

I wish all my many past translators in many countries my best wishes. I hope that working together has helped you gain more out of your life and your work, now and in the future, because your input into my life has helped me.

Good luck me duks.

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London is

London is great.

Over the last couple of days, I have been busy, seeing clients, preparing for the Stage Hypnosis Course on 20th and 21st of September 2008 in London, and trying to sort out the rest of the year for the countries I will be visiting to give training sessions, Turkey, Italy, Bahrain, UK etc.

I have had no time to think, which has been good.

When I needed help, mostly it has been there, supporting me, spurring me on, answering my questions, translating emails for me.

But there has been frustrations. With somethings I needed help, but could not find the anyone, I needed answers, but could not find the people or they did not or have not answered me.

Late Friday afternoon I needed to rearrange flights, and the best way was to accomplish it by sitting in front of the people, face to face, so of to Central London I went.

London is quite small really. It is easy to get around, from A to B, via X, by bus, tube, taxi or as we say in the UK,Shanksy’s Pony”.

So from my meeting in New Burlington Street, near Hamley’s Regent Street store, the best know toy shop in the world, on a warm late afternoon, I decided to walk back to Waterloo to catch the train home.

Pushing my way passed the tourists enjoying Piccadilly Circus, standing under Eros, hoping perhaps his arrow of love will capture someone for them, into China Town with a great restaurant for you to visit Wong Kei, out into Leicester Square with all its’ cinemas, then over the River Thames to Waterloo railway station, there is so much to see, and no time to do it in.

If you ever visit London, walk.

Piccadilly Circus from Regent Street, London
Piccadilly Circus from Regent Street, London

Eros in Piccadilly Circus, London
Eros in Piccadilly Circus, London

China Town, London
China Town, London

PS. for my American friends, we British are strange, and we pronounce words not as spelt. So Leicester Square is not pronounced “lie cester“, but “les ter” Square.

Part of Leicester Square, London, home of the British Cinema 
Part of Leicester Square, London


PPS. At the restaurant Wong Kei, do not expect good service with a smile, the waiters will be tell you off, where to sit, what to do, to hurry up, even take the unfinished food from under your nose if you take too long to eat. That is what makes Wong Kei a must to visit for good food at a very cheap price and to have a great time.

Wong Kei Restaurant, China Town London 
Wong Kei Restaurant, China Town London

Try it you might like it.

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Thoughts Travels

Fags End

In recent years, the UK as with other countries, have introduced strict no smoking laws.

Gone are the days when I sat in a restaurant, and a nearby smokers smoke drifted across my face.

Gone are the days I went into a bar and came out after an evening enjoying myself with colleagues or friends with my clothes smelling of cigarette smoke.

Gone are the days I walked down the railway platform following a smoker, my air space full of cigarette smoke, whilst the smoker was in fresh air.

Don’t take me wrong, I am not against smokers. As a reformed heavy smoker myself, I know the joy of a cigarette. Thirty years ago I gave up, but I still hunger for that same satisfaction on occasions.

The UK law restricts smoking in any public building or work space. This has resulted in workers having to stand outside the offices if they want to smoke, no matter what the weather is.

Next to my home, Norbiton Hall in Kingston upon Thames, is an office block called Clarendon House, home to many small companies whose employees must follow the law on smoking.

Clarendon House Norbiton Kingston
Clarendon House Norbiton Kingston

On the glass front entrance door can be found a notice:-

NO SMOKING
and
PLEASE DO NO SMOKE IN OR IN FRONT OF ENTRANCE

No Smoking Clarendon House
No Smoking Clarendon House

So what do the employees do? Go into the grounds of Norbiton Hall, and smoke there.

Smoker from Clarendon House
Smoker from Clarendon House

No problem, it is in the open, and some nicely maintained gardens.

But, why do they have to drop the FAG ENDS, the stubs, on the floor, stamping them out, and leaving them for other people to clear up.

Fag ends left by Clarendon House occupants in Norbiton Hall
Fag ends left by Clarendon House occupants in Norbiton Hall

I have a good mind to sweep them up and post them through the Clarendon House letter box.

I’m becoming a grumpy old man.