In life we have high-level generalisations, those that describe criteria or what is known as our values, those that are important to us.
Although we think ourselves as being rational people, we are more often driven by our emotions, which can be defined as our values or criteria, and these drive our behaviour, even though we may not be aware of them, they are working away at the subconscious level.
Values or criteria will be different in each and every one of us.
Some people drink alcohol because it makes them feel relaxed, reduces their inhibitions, to enjoy company of others, a social gathering, to escape from reality, the intoxication feeling, or to enjoy the taste, these are the values or criteria, that drive them or changes their behaviour.
Others, do not like the intoxication feeling, loosing control, deep seated beliefs maybe from a religious upbringing or culture.
Some people want to fulfill the value or criteria of looking good, to be seen as trendy, up-to-date, to fit in to society at work, school or holiday. Thus they buy fashionable clothes.
Others will want to be comfortable, to change their character, create a different persona, to hide their body.
The criteria we use, or the values we place on our behaviours, will drive us towards or away from doing something, often without us knowing why we are doing that something, as our criteria and values are operating at a subconscious level.
Get to know your own values and criteria, notice your thoughts, feelings, your internal representations, and if things are not working, change them now.
See Once Bitten, Twice Shy . This will help you notice your own values and criteria.
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