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NLP Phobias

NLP Master Practitioner – Istanbul

Sunday saw the end of the NLP Master Practitioner Course here in a very hot Istanbul. Not only was the weather hot, but we lost electricity for the whole day, as workers dug up the street below our window.


It is always sad to end a nine day course, as the participants share a lot of experiences together as they learn and make any changes they wanted. As always people took a time to leave the building, like loosing an old friend.
                                                      NLP, remove a deep seated phobia.


                                                      

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Travels

Different Beds

My lifestyle, my work takes me to many countries and places. It is rare that I stay more than two weeks in the same place.

That means different beds.

That means different sleep.

That means my body clock is never the same as I travel around the world.

I learned a trick from an airline pilot I taught on a PhotoReading course to adjust my body clock to the time of my destination, say India, when my body is used to the UK time. Before getting on the aircraft at the departing airport, adjust your watch time to that of the destination airport, and start living that time. At no time try to live your home time. It works.

I also never sightsee, have a day to adjust to the new time zone, I like to arrive, and go straight into the training course, even the same day of arrival. My body, my mind has no chance to complain of time changes.

But I need sleep.

I can often work for 21 days without a break, 9am until 6pm, plus the set-up time in the morning, the computer, aids to help me teach, water, and the strip-down, packing the computer away, tidying-up, participants leave behind them a real mess, moving chairs into the correct places. That expands my day by another couple of hours.

So I am tired, I need sleep.

It is rare that I go out in the evening, as I need rest, my body and especially my brain.

A participant once said to me I am like a theatre. I am the stage manager, I am the producer, I am the writer, I am the director, I am the actor, I am the musician, I am the cleaner, I am the caterer, I am the usher. I do all the jobs.

I need my space, I need rest and sleep.

Some people may find that hard to accept, as I am very alive during my courses, very extrovert, always watching, planning, calibrating with the participants.

I get back to the hotel or place I am staying, and let go. Looking forward to something to eat, and then sleep.

I empty my mind, not dwell on the day, allow the mind to relax, and go to bed, giving my inner mind instructions to wake-up at a specific time, say 7:30am, to prepare for the next day, to give me something special to do for the next day, and to give me a good sleep.

This last one is often difficult to achieve as I sleep is so many different beds.

Beds that are hard ones, soft ones, big ones, small ones, wide ones, narrow ones, short ones, long ones, high ones, low ones, lumpy ones.

Then you get the bed clothes. Hard sheets, soft sheets, duvets, blankets, just bed covers. Pillows, some feathers, some foam, big and small, lumpy, and different heights.

It takes a lot to adjust to the beds, let alone the bedrooms, and the different sounds coming from the next rooms, snoring, banging, flushing of the toilets, running of the showers, parties, and other bedtime games. 

Tonight I pack my bags, as tommorow I move to another bed.

Oh Poo Poo. click to read.

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Coaching NLP

BATNA – Best Alternative To a Negotiated Agreement

A couple of years ago I attended Harvard Business School, and from the Strategic Negotiation Course, perhaps one of the hardest courses I have every attended,  but enjoyable, we learned the model BATNA, standing for “best alternative to a negotiated agreement“.

From their book Getting to Yes: Negotiating Without Giving In, Roger Fisher and William Ury created the term BATNA. 

A BATNA is determined by knowing each parties upper and lower points at which they would walk away from an agreement, and will result in a course of action that will be taken by a either party if the current negotiations fail and an agreement cannot be reached.

In basic terms, when in negotiation, if the proposed agreement is better than your BATNA, then you should accept it, whereas if the proposed agreement is worse than your BATNA, you should walk away, or reopen negotiations. If you cannot improve the agreement, then you should at least consider withdrawing from the negotiations and pursuing your alternatives.

When in negotiation, one should also consider the other party’s BATNA, to come to an agreement that is a Win Win situation. That is to say that neither party looses in the agreement.

The BATNA can protect you both parties from accepting terms that are too unfavorable and from rejecting terms it would be in your interest to accept.
 
Many considerations should be made in constructing a BATNA, not just money or value, maybe payment terms, add-on value such as guarantees, delivery, suitability, needs, etc.

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NLP

Toothpicks Have Worth

Even a toothpick has worth.

                                                        BATNA, I had studied at Harvard Business School. Yes I have been to Harvard to study.

I am pleased with the outcome as were the participants, smiling all over their faces with the success they have achieved.

I will still need my toothpick to keep awake, so mind will have worth too. 

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NLP

Spoon Bending

                                             

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English Courses NLP Travels

Istanbul – Too Hot

I am in Istanbul this week, giving a NLP Master Practitioner course and three sessions of NLP to participants learning English. This means I am in-front of the participants from 9am till 7pm, with under an hours break for lunch.

This is enough to make anyone tired, but on top of this the weather is so hot, above 30 I believe. Add to this thirteen people in an enclosed space makes it even warmer, too much for the air conditioning to cope well.

I have now resorted to wearing sandals, and yesterday I got myself a pair of shorts, now the participants can see my short, fat, hairy legs. What a sight I must look, but I must keep cool, and none of the women wear socks and have bare legs, therefore I too can have. Equal rights for men.

Last night after finishing with the English language participants at 7pm, I fell into a bean bag seat we have in the classroom, just to rest my legs and aching back. This next thing I remember was suddenly waking-up half an hour later seeing pink every where. Where was I, for a fleeting moment I had no idea where I was. For another fifteen minutes I lay on the floor wrapped in the bean bag, unable to move, the heat had drained my energy.

                                                      Oh Poo Poo. (click to read) That’s me. I will need to go home, to a cooler UK. If only I could.

Internet access is an issue for me at the moment. It is difficult to find the time or an access point, as I am working, preparing other work, people wanting my time, so my blogs are suffering. Apologies to those who follow daily. I will take time for myself to relax, unwind, rest and get some sleep.

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Travels

Turkish Airlines TK1992 — A Chocolate Delight

Another flight, the same food.

On this flight, I had the choice of fish or pasta. There was no choice.

I opened the pasta to find a crusted offering, but the taste was better than the looks.

The salad revealed chopped peppers that my body does not tolerate well, so no problem.

                                          

The dessert offered a better offering, chocolate cake.

Now I was happy.

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NLP Travels

Flashing Entrance into Istanbul

I traveled to Istanbul on Friday to give a NLP Master Practitioner course, but the aircraft arrived slightly late, at 10:30pm. I was worried that Salim the driver would be in trouble waiting for me.

I left arrivals hall, to be met by Salim, who speaks little English, saying something about ambulance.

Then I realised. Waiting for me was an ambulance to take me to my hotel in Kadikoy.

Down the motorways we raced, lights flashing, cars moving out of the way.

So I was not late arriving at the hotel.

Strange arrival.

Now I have to find an internet connection.

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Films That Influence Me

Like music, (click for more) certain films have had a great influence on my life, and I enjoy watching time after time. I never grow tired of them.

Call me sentimental, (mental), but the Olivia Newton-John film Xanadu hits all the right buttons. In this cult movie, Olivia Newton-John portrays Kira, a Greek muse who attracts a painter dissatisfied with his career.

This musical follows the romance and the fulfillment of dreams, to the creation reality out of dreams with the dance hall called Xanadu, with the help of a retired musician played by the ever smiling Gene Kelly.

The movie includes such pop hits as Magic, Party All Over the World, I’m Alive and the title song Xanadu, played by the ELO – the Electric Light Orchestra.

My first exposure to Xanadu was in Saudi Arabia, buying cassettes of LP/CD’s to listen to, as there was nothing else to do in the early 1980’s, no cinemas, pubs, clubs, TV to watch. The music gripped me, it told a story, it was only years later that I came across the movie.

Another movie close to my heart is the black and white film called the Dambusters. This movie tells of the real life wartime story of the RAF (the British Royal Air Force) having to attack dams in Germany, to disrupt the Germans manufacturing industries, to bring the war closer to an end.

It tells the story of the dedication of the air crews, in training and to give their lives so others can live, it tells how Barnes Wallace, despite being ridiculed, worked out how to achieve the outcome needed, and that failures were a learning curve. Read the article on NOP click here.

The BBC created a radio series back in the 1970’s called The Hitchhikers Guide to the Galaxy, written by Douglas Adams. Unusually this radio series was then transformed into a TV series of the same name, and the book followed. A few years ago, a new movie was produced, but sorry to say not as good as the TV series. For a start the original robot Marvin was replaced, although, the real Marvin did play a cameo part. Marvin say one of the most outstanding statements for me:-

   “I’m so depressed, I have the brain of a planet, and all they ask me to do is open the door, I’m so depressed.” 

It is in the movie that we can see that the human brain always needs completion, if you ask it a question, it will always try and find the answer, if you give it the answer it will try and find what the question was.

42 is the answer.

The Wizard of OZ, the 1939 film starring Judy Garland, tells the story of a young girl trying to get home with her pet dog Toto. The only way back is to visit the Wizard of Oz. She meets friends on her journey, the Scarecrow, the Tin Man and the Lion, and together they have adventures and challenges which they overcome. When they meet the Wizard, it is then we realise we all have the same powers to meet our own challenges and adventures.

The latest film is What the Bleep Do We Know. A beautiful animation, film and documentary, telling the story of a woman going through a crisis, but coming to a realisation, that we must see things from a different perspective.

Very heavy on NLP, this film needs to be watched a couple of times to get the inner meaning, but it brings together all I teach in my courses.

The above films have a deeper meaning, a metaphor which we can all learn from.

Sentimental old me.